Tag: Support

It’s Better To Be Single And Lonely

Two are better than one because they can keep each other’s company, make each other happy, care for each other, encourage and support each other.

This is the essence of a relationship.

Relationship should add value to our lives not detract it.

Relationship should make our lives easier not complicated.

Relationship should help us to become happier and better than we can be on our own not the other way round.

Relationship should help us stay focus on what is important and achieve our dreams and ambitions not distract us and hold us back.

Life has its ups and downs already relationship should not add to it. Many stuff in life for instance work causes stress so relationship should not compound it.

Relationship is not a do or die affair. You don’t have to be in a relationship just because you are afraid or tired of being single and lonely.

Don’t stay in a relationship that makes your life miserable and deprived you of your peace of mind and sound night sleep.

It’s is better to be alone than to be in a relationship with a partner who is doing any of the following:

 
1) A partner that takes you and your efforts for granted.

 
2) A partner that lies to you about everything and anything, making you look like a fool in the presence of others.

 
3) A partner that makes you look like a fool for caring too much.

 
4) A partner who put you in doubt about where you actually belong in their life. Someone who is not committed to you.

 
5) A partner who takes undue advantage of you financially or in any way just because they know you love them so much and you are willing to do anything for them.

 
6) A partner who feels like he or she is doing you a favor by being with you.

 
7) A partner who doesn’t respect, support or appreciate you.

 
8) A partner that abuses you physically, emotionally, mentally or sexually.

 
9) A partner who sees and treats you as a competitor and feels threatened by your success and progress in life and career especially when you are getting ahead of them.

 
10) A partner who you have to beg for his/her attention and affection.

 
Relationship should be something you start because you have found the right person who is willing to put in the same effort you will put to ensure things work out.

Relationship should only start when you have find that one person that truly loves and cares about you just the same you do about them and also need you in his/her life to complete and compliment it like you also need them.

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Competition is not ideal in a healthy relationship. It breeds a hostile atmosphere. Relationship is about togetherness not battle of the sexes. Relationship is not about fighting for which gender is superior. Healthy relationship involves two partners supporting and understanding each other. The right mindset in a relationship should be to see the failure of one as the failure of all: And same for success. Partners should encourage each other to break boundaries not compete with each other for who will be more successful and richer. See your partner as your team mate not as your competitor. When you support each other, you will grow, succeed and stay together.

 

Be careful of who you tell everything that happens in your relationship and who you run to for relationship advice. Most people you see as friends are not really your friends. Oftentimes they get jealous and bitter when you tell them about the happenings in your relationship. Most times your friends wish they have the kind of relationship you have that you are still complaining one or two things about to them. Human are naturally jealous and envious when they see people who have what they lack. And very few people can keep their jealous/envy under control, most people usually allow it to control them. This fact can make your friends give you advice that will make you do stuff that will ruin your relationship or even snatch away your partner from you. So before you take advice from a friend, you should always ask yourself will it help improve your relationship or make things worse.

 

Faithfulness is becoming a rare trait these days. If you want a faithful partner you must first choose to be a faithful person yourself. Then you must be determined never to settle for a cheating/unfaithful partner. Work on yourself to get to the state of mind when you tell a cheating partner to be faithful or lose you irrespective of how much you love and want to be with that person. Grow and develop yourself in every aspect of your life. When you work on yourself to become someone of great value it will become difficult for you to tolerate shit in a relationship. Make yourself that partner that brings value to a relationship apart from money(man) and your body(woman). Make yourself that partner that someone is afraid to lose because it will be difficult to replace him/her. Be a faithful and value adding partner.

Your Partner Is Not Your Competitor

Most of us are used to being in competition with everyone around us because of our upbringing and schooling.

We see others as our competitors that we must outdo by all means possible.

The problem is most of still carry this mentality into our romantic relationship.

In a romantic relationship partners are suppose to complete, compliment, support and encourage each other.

You must never see your partner as your competitor.

The two of you have technically become one. You should root for each other.

Literally you should be each other’s number one cheerleader.

Don’t ever see the success of your partner as a threat to you.

It should be a thing of joy to you when you see your partner achieve greatness.

It shows you are a value adder and growth facilitator if someone you are with is making progress.

And if your partner achieve more success the better its for you because you will both enjoy the benefit.

So instead of turning yourself into a stumbling block on the path of your partner to greater, make yourself their stepping stone.

Take delibrate effort to bring out the best in your partner.

Encourage them to be their best possible. Let “The success of one is the success of all” be your mantra in your relationship.

Instead thwarting the growth of your partner, work harder to achieve more so that both of you can have more successes to celebrate together.

This quote concerns men the most

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I Can’t Do It Alone: Lets Do This Together

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I created this blog inorder to help people enjoy their relationship.

My goal is to continuously  write articles that will add value and help improve people’s relationship.

My joy is to get feedback from people whose relationship/love pursuit has been made lot easier through the post on this blog and  people already in a relationships who have been able to improve their relationships through my posts.

However, one is too small to achieve much.

A tree doesn’t make a forest.

I can’t do it alone.

I need your support through sharing my post on your social media pages.

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Lets work together to acheive a happy love life for each and everyone.

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