Tag: Single

It’s Better To Be Single And Lonely

Two are better than one because they can keep each other’s company, make each other happy, care for each other, encourage and support each other.

This is the essence of a relationship.

Relationship should add value to our lives not detract it.

Relationship should make our lives easier not complicated.

Relationship should help us to become happier and better than we can be on our own not the other way round.

Relationship should help us stay focus on what is important and achieve our dreams and ambitions not distract us and hold us back.

Life has its ups and downs already relationship should not add to it. Many stuff in life for instance work causes stress so relationship should not compound it.

Relationship is not a do or die affair. You don’t have to be in a relationship just because you are afraid or tired of being single and lonely.

Don’t stay in a relationship that makes your life miserable and deprived you of your peace of mind and sound night sleep.

It’s is better to be alone than to be in a relationship with a partner who is doing any of the following:

 
1) A partner that takes you and your efforts for granted.

 
2) A partner that lies to you about everything and anything, making you look like a fool in the presence of others.

 
3) A partner that makes you look like a fool for caring too much.

 
4) A partner who put you in doubt about where you actually belong in their life. Someone who is not committed to you.

 
5) A partner who takes undue advantage of you financially or in any way just because they know you love them so much and you are willing to do anything for them.

 
6) A partner who feels like he or she is doing you a favor by being with you.

 
7) A partner who doesn’t respect, support or appreciate you.

 
8) A partner that abuses you physically, emotionally, mentally or sexually.

 
9) A partner who sees and treats you as a competitor and feels threatened by your success and progress in life and career especially when you are getting ahead of them.

 
10) A partner who you have to beg for his/her attention and affection.

 
Relationship should be something you start because you have found the right person who is willing to put in the same effort you will put to ensure things work out.

Relationship should only start when you have find that one person that truly loves and cares about you just the same you do about them and also need you in his/her life to complete and compliment it like you also need them.

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Don’t Stay In An Abusive/Unhealthy Relationship: Relationship Is Not A Do Or Die Affair

Relationship is not a do or die affair.

Relationship should not be rush into just because you dread the feeling of being lonely.

Being single doesn’t mean your life is miserable.

So don’t enter into a relationship because you are lonely. You shouldn’t allow loneliness push you into unhealthy or toxic relationship.

Why would you stay in a relationship that bring continuous sorrow and pain to you, when there is someone out there who will cherish you and go the extra mile just to ensure you are happy.

Life is too short why would you decide to spend most of it in sadness and sorrow all in a name of relationship.

Our relationship determines to a great extent if we are going to enjoy our life on earth or not.

Though no relationship is perfect but a healthy relationship will not derail your life or career and bring you continuous sorrow, pain and sleepless night.

A person that truly loves you will always be careful not to hurt your feelings and make concerted effort to make you a happier and better person than you can be without him/her.

Relationship is not all about money.

Relationship is not all about catching feelings.

Relationship is not all about physical attraction.

You must learn to develop your emotional intelligence so as to prevent your emotions from controlling your life and causing you to make wrong choice when it comes to chosing a partner.

You must not allow your emotion to always determine the direction of your life and relationship.

Stop desiring or longing for someone who take you for granted just because he/she looks great or support you financially.

Stop longing for someone who you have to fight for his/her attention and affection just you find it difficult to stop thinking about him/her.

Stop falling in love with the same kind of people that keep using and dumping you.

Stop falling in love with people that make you feel inadequate and hard to love.

You need to displine and guide your heart.

Guide your heart with all dilligent for out of it flows the decision that will make or mar you in life and relationship.

Only give your heart to someone that will value and take good care of it.

Stop chasing people that you need to convince before they notice your worth and uniqueness.

Quit worrying about someone who does not have time for you.

You don’t need to beg for attention and affection from a person that loves and values you.

Learn to let go of any person or relationship that continuously cause you pain/hurt your feelings.

Any relationship that take away your happiness, peace of mind and sound night sleep is too expensive, let it go.

You must learn to know when to keep fighting for your relationship and when to give up on a dead relationship.

Love yourself enough to settle for someone that makes you happy and better.

You must also know that there is a difference between fighting for love and fighting for someone to love you.

Real and true love is never complicated, the moment things is getting complicated that is the best time to walk away.

Complicated relationship is nothing but time waster and joy killer.

Decide to always be with someone that cherish and appreciates you.

Decide to either be in a healthy relationship or be alone.

Don’t Rush Into Relationship Because Of Loneliness

Relationship is not a do or die affair.

Relationship should not be rush into just because you dread the feeling of being lonely.

Don’t stay in a relationship that bring continuous sorrow and pain to you.

Life is too short so enjoy it while it last.

Our relationship determines to a great extent if we are going to enjoy our life on earth or not.

Though no relationship is perfect but a healthy relationship will not derail your life or career and bring you continuous sorrow, pain and sleepless night.

A person that truly loves you will always be careful not to hurt your feelings and make concerted effort to make you a happier and better person than you can be without him/her.

Relationship is not all about money.

Relationship is not all about catching feelings.

You must learn to develop your emotional intelligence so as to prevent your emotions from controlling your life.

You must not allow your emotion to always determine the direction of your life and relationship.

Only give your heart to someone that will value and take good care of it.

Stop chasing people that you need to convince before they notice your worth and uniqueness.

Quit worrying about someone who does not have time for you.

You don’t need to beg for attention and affection from a person that loves and values you.

Learn to let go of any person or relationship that continuously cause you pain and hurt your feelings.

Love yourself enough to only settle for someone that makes you happy and better.

Decide to always be with someone that cherish and appreciates you.

Decide from today that you will either be in a healthy relationship or remain single.

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Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe

Every individual ooze an aura that gives people impression about the kind of person they are.

This aura is also called vibe.

We all give out vibes and this vibe determines the kind of people- tribe, who are attracted to us and how we are treated by people. Our vibe is dependent on factors like our upbringing and past relationships.

For instance, people who were not shown unconditional love during childhood might have a problem with their self esteem and self perception when they become an adult.

Low self esteem will make you second guess yourself.

Low self esteem will make you feel you are not good enough.

The deeply rooted belief that you are not good enough will permeate through your body language, gesture, expression on your face and everything about you.

This sends a wrong message to people around you who will react and treat you accordingly.

People who were repeatedly abuse physically or emotionally during their childhood usually end up getting attracted to partners who physically or emotionally abuse them as an adult. They are so used to abuse to the extent that they sees it as nothing bad or abnornal.

My point is your childhood experience and past relationships can conditioned your mind to accept abnornalities in relationships as your norms.

So what can you do to make a positive change?

The solution is to take time to re-evaluate your life and relationship everyone once in a while.

Take time to identify what is working and what is not.

You can not continue to do the same thing over and over yet expect a different result.

You can not continue to give out the same vibe which attract the same tribe(people) yet expect to experience a different relationship result/experience.

You must ensure you have the right mindset and beliefs about relationship and life.

Never allow your childhood experience and past abusive relationships color your view about relationship in a negative way.

Don’t let your past keep you captive.

Re-define yourself and your perspective about relationship.

Don’t just settle for just any kind of relationship.

Being physically or emotionally abuse in a relationship is an abnormality, don’t ever accept it as your own norm.

Cheating is not normal in a healthy relationship, don’t settle for partners that are habitual cheaters.

It’s better to be alone and be happy than to be in a relationship that constantly cause you tears, pain and hurt.

Learn to love yourself and cease to spend time with people who continuously make you believe you are not good enough.

You are special, unique, amazing, wonderful and lovable.

Negative opinions of people about you should not be your reality. Create your own reality.

Adopt a positive mindset about life and relationship.

Set boundary for people. Don’t allow people to take you for granted or treat you badly. Learn to walk away from negative people and unhealthy relationships.

Build up your self-confidence. Respect and treat yourself very well.

You are good enough.

Break free from vicious circle of abusive and unhealthy relationships.

Love yourself unconditionally and keep company of people genuinely love you and values you.

Finally, be conscious of the vibe you give out. Ensure you are giving out positive vibes so as to attract positive people(tribe).