Tag: Respect

Know Your Worth

When we find ourselves in a toxic relationship where we are being treated badly by our partner, we hope they are going to change for the better especially when the partner used to be sweet and good to us.

We put up with their not so good behaviours, doing a little complaining here and there but not doing anything definite to be taken serious by the partner.

So things remain the same or get worse.

The mistake most of us make is we don’t realize that its up to us to determine how people treat us.

Truth be told, you can’t change anybody- people are who they chose to be.

But your power lies in the ability to determine who stays or doesn’t stay in your life.

Now, that is a boundless power.

Until you realize and harness this power it might be difficult to be truly happy.

It is through this power we re-enforce or encourage how people should treat us.

You must know that what you encourage is what continues.

How do you encourage people to treat you in a certain way?

You do so by putting up with their actions.

When you put up with something you give a signal that such is okay with you.

I believe its time to stop enduring what is tearing you apart from within.

Take a stand for yourself.

Know your value and worth.

Don’t be in a relationship where you are not respected, appreciated and treated well.

If you are not being treated the way you want in your relationship, its better to get out of such relationship.

Your goal should be to be with someone that knows your value and treats you better than you think you deserve. #296 Quote

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Love Doctor’s Advice 008

Communication is the lifeline of a loving and healthy relationship. Make effort to communicate with your partner on a daily basis. Don’t assume your partner understand things. Assumptions is the cause of most misunderstanding and conflicts. Communicate your thoughts, fears, concerns and mood clearly. Make sure you are understood. When you make your partner understand what you are passing through, it will be easy for them to provide support. Regular communication makes partner not just lovers but also best friends.

 
There is nothing perfect in this imperfect world. No one is perfect including you. So stop expecting your partner to be perfect. Stop setting unrealistic expectations and standards for your partner. Accept your partner the way they are. If there is need for improvement, communicate it with love. Nothing transforms people faster than love. Complaining and nagging hardly works.

 
Don’t avoid arguments and misunderstanding by all cost in your relationship. Most relationships without little arguments and fights here and there, are usually full of secrets and partners who don’t really care. Give room for quarrels and misunderstanding, it enables you to know each other better. Though they must be handle maturely and you must put the relationship first ahead of individual’s ego.

 
Misunderstanding and conflicts are normal occurrence when two people from different backgrounds, exposure and temperament come together as one in a relationship. Expect and understand this so you don’t think you two have fall out of love when it starts happening. Create a harmless way to resolve the misunderstanding and conflicts that will inevitably happen in your relationship.You must resolved never to attack each other physically or use deregatory language against each other during quarrels. Such resolution helps a great deal. When you are determined to resolve issues and not dissolve your relationship. It will strengthen the bond between you and your partner.

 
Respect is very important in a relationship if you want it to be a healthy, loving and lasting one. You must respect your partner’s opinion, space and person- who they are. Respect should never be a one sided affair. It should not be genderly based. Respect should be reciprocated. Give your partner respect and expect it in return.

Love Doctor’s Advice 003

The key to having a healthy and loving relationship is to learn how to accept your fault when you did something wrong without being told: And to be able to apologise without being asked.

 

Don’t ever be intimated by the success of your partner. In a healthy relationship success of one is the success of other. Don’t feel inferior because your partner is more successful than you. Learn to give your support and encouragement to spur your partner to even greater height. If you can do this they will believe deeply that the success they have achieved would not have been possible without your presence in their life. They will give you credit for their successes and you will both enjoy the benefit of the success. Push your lover to become a better person in every aspect of their life.

 

Relationship is about living together not just being together. Living together involves growing, learning, getting better and accomplishing great feats together. This creates stronger bond than just having feelings for each other.

 

Trust is the bedrock of a healthy relationship. Learn to trust but never trust blindly. Make effort to verify the trustworthiness of the person you are trusting. You verify by paying attention to little things they do, say and left unsaid. Verifying prevent you from getting deeply hurt if your partner aim was to deceive and take undue advantage of you through the relationship.

 

Never should you embarrass your lover privately or publicly. As a lover your words carry weight. Don’t say things that will damage their self esteem or hurt their feelings. A relationship is a place where you build each other up not tear down each other. Treat your partner with respect everytime most especially in the public. And they will love and respect you more.