Tag: Respect

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Stop making up excuses in your head for people, when they treat you badly or as an option just because you have become emotionally attached to them. People put in effort if they really want something to work. They make time for what they consider really important. They care and give attention to whomever they really love. Don’t be deceived by words. Pay attention to actions. Words can be deceiving but action don’t. Actions speak louder than words. People’s action is the true indicator of their true intentions.

Your partner determines how are you treated by his/her family. A mature person will take full responsibility to ensure there is a smooth relationship between his/her partner and family. Date someone who is mature enough to ensure his/her family treats you with respect. If you are being treated badly with disrespect by your in-laws it is often because of what your partner has said about you to them or because your partner fails to project you well or draw a line on what treatment he/she will tolerate/accept when it comes to you.

Don’t make a mistake of tolerating physical/emotional/mental abuse in a relationship. People who were murdered by their partner never saw it coming but must have noticed signs of excessive aggression in the partner at one point or the other. Don’t let your emotions blindfold you to your partner’s dangerous behaviour that poses a threat to your well-being or life. Don’t let an abusive relationship send you to an early grave. Always choose loneliness above an abusive partner/relationship. If it’s not healthy and loving it’s not worth it.

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Happiness comes from within. If you are not happy with who you are, you will never be happy with what you have. It is not your partner’s duty to make you happy. Happiness is a personal decision. You can either choose to be happy or miserable. Your partner can only contribute to your happiness/misery. Choose to be happy and only settle for a partner that makes concerted effort to make you happier than you can ever be on your own. If you not happy find out why and not who to blame.

 

 

Relationship/marriage is not about finding someone that will complete you in order to get respect and approval from people/society. It is about finding someone who loves, care, values and respect you for who you are and wholeheartedly wants to be with you and not someone else.

 

 

Relationship is not a battlefield for superiority of one gender over another. Don’t be with someone who want to lord it over your life just because he is a male. Be with someone who truly loves you and place your happiness as a priority. Someone who is willing to do anything to make you happy, comfortable and feel appreciated as a woman: And don’t be with someone who is not willing to respect your leadership. Someone who continuously challenged your authority for no good reason other than to emasculate you as a man.

Happy New Year Friends.

Welcome to year 2019.

I will be adding a new category title “No Romance Without Finance” to my blog this year. This category will contain step by step instructions on how to produce a particular product which you can use to start a small/medium business which will generate income for you. Watch out

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Most of the time it’s not the person you miss, it’s the feelings and moments you had when you were with them. Don’t let a sweet moment and wonderful feelings you had in time pass tie you down to a person or relationship that has turned unhealthy, toxic or abusive when the person gets comfortable enough with you to start showing their true color.

 

 

Never change who you are(in a bad way) for someone’s approval/acceptance. Anyone that truly love you will accept and appreciate who you are and will never force you to do what you don’t want to do or what can have a negative repercussions on your future. Be proud of who you are in a positive way and only choose to be with people who see value in you and appreciate you for who you are.

 

 

You can’t have a perfect relationship because you are not perfect and nobody is. However, you can have a great relationship(a healthy and loving relationship). A great relationship begins when partners learn to appreciate their similarities(what they have in common) and respect their differences(what makes them unique as individuals).

 

Merry Christmas……

You Deserve The Kind Of Love You Give Out

Love is not worthy of its name if it’s unrequited. A healthy relationship is a relationship built on love.

Love is a mutual thing never a one sided thing. Love is not about just giving, it also involves receiving.

Believe me you deserve the kind of love and care you give out to others.

Relationship is something to be enjoy not endure and it can only be enjoy if the feelings are mutual and the effort is mutually invested.

Here are the kind of partners you should be with if you want to enjoy a healthy and loving relationship:

 
1. You deserve someone that feels lucky to have you.

 
2. You deserve someone that respect and appreciate every little thing you do for them.

 
3. You deserve someone that will love and care about you, you don’t have to be the only one doing the loving and caring.

 
4. You deserve someone who is willing to put in the effort to make what you share last forever.

 
5. You deserve someone who will stay committed, faithful and loyal to you.

 
6. You deserve someone that respect you and make it clear to his friends and family that they must do same.

 
7. You deserve someone who will never get tired of you.

 
8. You deserve someone who believe in you and your dreams, aspiration and ambition.

 
9. You deserve someone who is committed to supporting you to achieve your dreams and goals.

 
10. You deserve someone who support and encourage you to be a better person in all ramification.

Relationship is best/sweet when the love, care, sacrifice, commitment, faithfulness, attention and efforts in general is coming from both end… Wish you happiness and love in your relationship pursuit.

It’s Better To Be Single And Lonely

Two are better than one because they can keep each other’s company, make each other happy, care for each other, encourage and support each other.

This is the essence of a relationship.

Relationship should add value to our lives not detract it.

Relationship should make our lives easier not complicated.

Relationship should help us to become happier and better than we can be on our own not the other way round.

Relationship should help us stay focus on what is important and achieve our dreams and ambitions not distract us and hold us back.

Life has its ups and downs already relationship should not add to it. Many stuff in life for instance work causes stress so relationship should not compound it.

Relationship is not a do or die affair. You don’t have to be in a relationship just because you are afraid or tired of being single and lonely.

Don’t stay in a relationship that makes your life miserable and deprived you of your peace of mind and sound night sleep.

It’s is better to be alone than to be in a relationship with a partner who is doing any of the following:

 
1) A partner that takes you and your efforts for granted.

 
2) A partner that lies to you about everything and anything, making you look like a fool in the presence of others.

 
3) A partner that makes you look like a fool for caring too much.

 
4) A partner who put you in doubt about where you actually belong in their life. Someone who is not committed to you.

 
5) A partner who takes undue advantage of you financially or in any way just because they know you love them so much and you are willing to do anything for them.

 
6) A partner who feels like he or she is doing you a favor by being with you.

 
7) A partner who doesn’t respect, support or appreciate you.

 
8) A partner that abuses you physically, emotionally, mentally or sexually.

 
9) A partner who sees and treats you as a competitor and feels threatened by your success and progress in life and career especially when you are getting ahead of them.

 
10) A partner who you have to beg for his/her attention and affection.

 
Relationship should be something you start because you have found the right person who is willing to put in the same effort you will put to ensure things work out.

Relationship should only start when you have find that one person that truly loves and cares about you just the same you do about them and also need you in his/her life to complete and compliment it like you also need them.

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Relationship is not a do or die affair. It is something to be enjoy not endure. Truth be told, relationship is not expected to be a bed of roses all of the time but it shouldn’t be a bed of thorns most/all of the time you are with your partner. The only relationship worthy of your time and effort is a healthy relationship. In a healthy relationship your efforts is appreciated and reciprocated. Don’t be in a relationship where you are the only one doing the loving, checking up and apologizing when things go wrong. Such relationship is not good for your mental and emotional well-being. You deserve a relationship where you are loved, cherish, appreciated, pampered and celebrated. So don’t settle for a relationship where you are treated badly or like you are a scumbag.

 
Do you know what you want in a relationship? Before starting a new relationship, the first and most important thing to do is to know exactly what you want in a relationship. Knowing what you want will prevent you from ending up with what you don’t want. After having a concrete knowledge of what you want in a relationship, you must be determined to fight the temptation to settle for less. People who settled for less usually regret it later and end up telling people that care to listen that they would have marry another person if not for one reason or another. It’s important to note that knowing what you want in a relationship has nothing to do with setting unrealistic standards. It involves knowing the qualities you want in a mate and how you want to be treated in a relationship.

 
You don’t need a perfect person in order to have a healthy and loving relationship. All you need is a person that is willing to put in effort needed to make you feel loved and happy. A person that wouldn’t take you for granted or become a source of pain and hurt to you after you have show how much you love him/her. A person that will value, respect, cherish and appreciate you. A person that will know your weakness, past mistakes, imperfection and flaws yet still finds you amazing and beautiful. A person that won’t get tired of you no matter how long you have been together. A person that will be faithful, committed and loyal to you. When you find such a person never take such for granted because relationship can only be healthy, loving and lasting if both partners are willing and committed to make it so.

What Do You Want In A Relationship?

confusedThe aim of most serious relationship is to end in marriage.

Almost everyone desire to enjoy a happy married life.

However, desire, hope, wishes or prayers alone does not guarantee a happy married life.

A happy married life is an ultimate accomplishment when it comes to relationship for most people.

Success in any sphere of life requires extra effort and same can be said for relationships.

A happy married life must be work towards from the word go.

It takes knowing what you really want and not settling for less.

It also takes time, unconditional love, commitment, faithfulness, forgiveness, sacrifice, self displine, determination, emotional maturity among others.

These requirements must be streaming from both partners before a relationship can be able to stand the test of time and still remain healthy and loving.
Relationship and marriages fail most times because people don’t know exactly what they want.

If you want to be truly happy in your relationship you must clearly define exactly what you want in a relationship.

Talking about what you want in a relationship, am not referring to the superficial qualities like physical attractiveness, educational, social and financial status.

It is quite sad that most people over focus on them while ignoring things that are more important when it comes to chosing a partner.

Hold on for a second before you get me wrong.

I am not saying physical attraction, financial capability, social and academic status are not important.

They are definitely important.

It is cool to be with someone you can flaunt because of their good look.

Money makes love sweeter. Infact finance is the fuel for romance. Social and educational status makes it easy to connect on an intellectual level in a relationship.
Many relationships and marriages still failed inspite of having all these qualities present in their spouses.

Why so?

There are many people in relationship or marriage with a very good looking partner who is financially okay and also share similar academic and social status yet they are not happy together.

So what is the missing link in their relationship?

It is important to know the really important things when it comes to relationship.

The important thing to do before venturing into a love affair is to first sit down and highlight what you really want in a relationship.

You should define the kind of person you want.

You should clearly state out the qualities you desire in a mate.

For instance, you can say you want a person that is confident, caring, non-violent, understanding, friendly, open minded, respectful, law abiding among others.

You must also clearly define how you will be treated and what you will not endure or tolerate in a relationship.

Without a concrete resolution on what you want in a relationship you will continue to settle for just any person that comes your way which will make it pretty difficult to enjoy a loving and healthy relationship needless to mention a happy married life.
Relationship is beyond just having a good looking, educated or financially buoyant partner.

You also need someone that will treat well.

You need someone that will show you unconditional love.

You need someone that will let you know you mean the world to him/her.

You need someone that will make you feel special and on top of the world.

You need someone that is afraid to lose you.

You need someone that will dry away your tears and make deliberate effort to make you happy on a consistent basis without a reason.

You need someone that will accept, value and respect you for who you are.

You need someone that is committed to helping you to be your best possible in every sphere of life.

You need someone you don’t have to beg or compete for his/her attention and affection.

You need someone who is proud to have you and wouldn’t hesitate to show you off to his friends and family.

My aim of writing this article is to help you enjoy your relationship by knowing exacting what you want as an individual when it comes to your relationship goals.

So what do you want in a relationship?

Do you know what your heart, soul and body want in terms of relationship?