The aim of most serious relationship is to end in marriage.
Almost everyone desire to enjoy a happy married life.
However, desire, hope, wishes or prayers alone does not guarantee a happy married life.
A happy married life is an ultimate accomplishment when it comes to relationship for most people.
Success in any sphere of life requires extra effort and same can be said for relationships.
A happy married life must be work towards from the word go.
It takes knowing what you really want and not settling for less.
It also takes time, unconditional love, commitment, faithfulness, forgiveness, sacrifice, self displine, determination, emotional maturity among others.
These requirements must be streaming from both partners before a relationship can be able to stand the test of time and still remain healthy and loving.
Relationship and marriages fail most times because people don’t know exactly what they want.
If you want to be truly happy in your relationship you must clearly define exactly what you want in a relationship.
Talking about what you want in a relationship, am not referring to the superficial qualities like physical attractiveness, educational, social and financial status.
It is quite sad that most people over focus on them while ignoring things that are more important when it comes to chosing a partner.
Hold on for a second before you get me wrong.
I am not saying physical attraction, financial capability, social and academic status are not important.
They are definitely important.
It is cool to be with someone you can flaunt because of their good look.
Money makes love sweeter. Infact finance is the fuel for romance. Social and educational status makes it easy to connect on an intellectual level in a relationship.
Many relationships and marriages still failed inspite of having all these qualities present in their spouses.
There are many people in relationship or marriage with a very good looking partner who is financially okay and also share similar academic and social status yet they are not happy together.
So what is the missing link in their relationship?
It is important to know the really important things when it comes to relationship.
The important thing to do before venturing into a love affair is to first sit down and highlight what you really want in a relationship.
You should define the kind of person you want.
You should clearly state out the qualities you desire in a mate.
For instance, you can say you want a person that is confident, caring, non-violent, understanding, friendly, open minded, respectful, law abiding among others.
You must also clearly define how you will be treated and what you will not endure or tolerate in a relationship.
Without a concrete resolution on what you want in a relationship you will continue to settle for just any person that comes your way which will make it pretty difficult to enjoy a loving and healthy relationship needless to mention a happy married life.
Relationship is beyond just having a good looking, educated or financially buoyant partner.
You also need someone that will treat well.
You need someone that will show you unconditional love.
You need someone that will let you know you mean the world to him/her.
You need someone that will make you feel special and on top of the world.
You need someone that is afraid to lose you.
You need someone that will dry away your tears and make deliberate effort to make you happy on a consistent basis without a reason.
You need someone that will accept, value and respect you for who you are.
You need someone that is committed to helping you to be your best possible in every sphere of life.
You need someone you don’t have to beg or compete for his/her attention and affection.
You need someone who is proud to have you and wouldn’t hesitate to show you off to his friends and family.
My aim of writing this article is to help you enjoy your relationship by knowing exacting what you want as an individual when it comes to your relationship goals.
So what do you want in a relationship?
Do you know what your heart, soul and body want in terms of relationship?