Tag: Relationship

Love Knows No Boundary

Love is beautiful, ethereal and divine.

It has no boundary.

Love is not dependent on race, colour, religion or ethnicity.

Where there is love age, distance, weight and height are just numbers.

Love supercedes religion and ethnicity.

Love don’t wait for permission before it happens.

We don’t find love, love finds us.

Never let go of love because of differences in religion, tribe, educational status, financial status, social class or race.

Let love always lead the way.

Love doesn’t harm.

It doesn’t manipulate or take undue advantage.

It is not selfish.

Love abides till death separate.

Love is never one sided.

Love don’t just take, it also give back.

Love is the essense of life.

Love make everyone of us come alive.

Love breeds trust.

Love gives hope, joy and untold happiness.

Love is life.

Life is meaningless and boring without love.

Love is our soft spot.

Love is never a weakness but strength.

Love is not for the feeble minded.

It takes courage to fall in love and give your heart away to a stranger without the certainty that it will not be broken into pieces.

Love accentuate our humanity.

Love bring out the best in us.

Love is tender, caring, understanding, accommodating and forgiving.

Love is medicinal to the heart that carries it.

Without love humanity is bound for self destruction.

Don’t ever hate love or doubt its existence.

Don’t ever give up on love.

If you are yet to find love, keep searching it will find you soon.

If you have found love, cherish it and never take it for granted or let go.

Love is beautiful and it will make your life bright and beautiful.

Don’t fall in love with the wrong person.

A person that will abuse, manipulate or mistreat you.

Watch out for the character of your potential partner because it matters in the long run.

Make sure you wait for the right person. A person that will cherish, value and celebrate you.

Hurting People Hurt People

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Love and human beings are inseparable. Love is just an abstract thing which totally depend on human to be felt or expressed.

Love is a beautiful thing but human can chose to be good or wicked.

Your experience of love is totally dependent on the persons you encountered in your quest to find love.

If you come in contact with a wholesome person you will have a wholesome love experience. On the other hand, if you come in contact with a hurting person, what will most definitely happen is they will hurt you too either intentionally or otherwise.

 

I observe that there is a lot of bitter, broken and hurting persons has a result of hurt and disappointment from past failed relationships resulting in a vicious cycle of unhealthy and abusive relationships in recent time.

If you are hurting or broken hearted rushing into another relationship is not the best choice for you.

Oftentimes hurting people rush into the arm of another romantic partner not out of love but loneliness.

If you are hurting or broken hearted healing process should be your number one priority not another love affair.

When you are hurting you wouldn’t be in the right frame of mind to give your best in a relationship.

You will be skeptical about love and everything about the new partner. You will have trust and commitment issues. You will be absent minded in the relationship. All of these and many more will directly or indirectly hurt your new partner.

It is important to ensure you seek healing for your hurting and broken heart before you consider sharing the heart with someone new.

Don’t let someone who have no idea about who hurt you suffer for the pain and hurt you experienced in your past relationship.

Trust Issues In Relationship

 

      Relationship is the spice of life.

Relationship is an integral part of us being a social animal.

The people around us contribute to a large extent to our happiness and how our lives turned out.

Romantic relationship is the most intimate amongst the different types of relationship and it commands a great influence over our lives.

Relationship when healthy and full of love makes life more beautiful and interesting.

Relationships are built on trust.

Trust issues is one of the root cause of problems encounter in relationship.

Trust, they say is earned. Not to be given freely.

However, many don’t understand how trust and relationship work, this is the root cause of disappointment, betrayal and heart breaks experienced in relationship.

Some people believe once you love a person, automatically you should trust the person.

Well, I stand to differ because of my observation in many failed relationships caused by betrayed trust.

Trust for me is something that must be earned.

After your trust is earned, you must verify if the person you gave your trust to still deserves it because people change.

This will help you from getting excessively hurt, devastated and heart broken incase your partner have ulterior motives for having a relationship with you.

As it is now rampart these days.

The fact that you love someone and you are emotionally attached to them is not enough reason to just give them your trust.

Trusting people just because you love them is trusting blindly.

Many people who have trust in this manner have been deeply hurt and regretted not making effort to verify if the person they trust is actually trustworthy because they are blinded by love.

An instance is a lady dating a guy who claim to be single but unknown to her that the guy is married with kids.

It is important to know that not everyone who claim to love you truly loves you.

Some claim to love you so as to use or manipulate you for their own purpose.

This is the reason you must make concerted effort to be sure the lover you are about to put your trust has your interest in mind.

Verifying trust makes it possible to discover a lover whose purpose is to use us for their own means at a early stage in the relationship.

This will help reduce the pain and ache experienced at discovering you are not really loved by the person but just a pawn they planned to use in order to achieve an end.

Put a price on your trust. Don’t just give it out blindly in the name of love.

Love is not what it used to be. The reason we feel some must when a lover does something we don’t like is because we have entrusted our emotions in them hoping they won’t hurt us.

Trust is very delicate.

Don’t just trust blindly.

Be careful of who you give your trust to.

Don’t be a victim of emotional manipulator.

I will love to get your feedback on this discussion.

Physical Attraction Is Not Enough

One of the numerous reasons relationships fail these days is because they are built on a wrong foundation.

Don’t fall in love just because of looks.

Look deeper.

See beyond the face value.

Beautiful heart is more precious than just a beautiful face.

When he/ she hurts or cheats on you repeatedly, you will not remember how attractive they look.

If you want a lasting and healthy relationship focus on finding someone with a beautiful heart than a beautiful face or body.

A person with a beautiful heart will make your world more beautiful.

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My First One Month Of Blogging

Today marks a month I started this blog site.

I am really glad that I finally got a medium to let the world know about my philosophy and ideology about relationships and life in general.

I really appreciate every single person that have visited my blog and read through my posts.

I appreciate those that like and comment on my post.

I appreciate those that are following me.

I really appreciate all the people from Nigeria, South Africa, Egypt, America,United Kingdom, European Union and other countries that I can’t mention who do visit my blog.

I really wish to hear how much my write up has helped improve your relationship.

I must not forget to thank a certain  viewer from America that is always the first to see my post.

I appreciate every single person who has visited and view my post. You guys are the reason I stay up late at night to write and post.

I love you all….

Thank you….

E Se pupo which means thanks a lot in Yoruba language.

Please keep visiting and viewing my post. I will be greatly honored if you can also share the post with others on your social media page.

Thank you once again

Love Doctor’s Advice 005

You don’t have to change for someone to love you. A person who is genuinely interested in you will love you exactly the way you are. Though it is good to change for the good. If you want to change, do so because you desire to be a better person not to get someone’s love or attention. Someone who can’t love and accept you the way you are now wouldn’t still value you even if you changed everything about you to please such a person.

Every relationship has its problem, fights and misunderstanding but what makes a relationship beautiful is the desire and determination to stick together and make things work no matter what.

Your happiness should not be determined by others. If you depend on others to be happy, your happiness will never be stable and long lasting. When you give people the power to determine your happiness, few can resist the temptation to use it to manipulate you. Take deliberate effort to make yourself happy. And spend time with the people that make you happy.

You can tell when someone takes you serious in a relationship if you care enough to pay attention. When you find someone who takes you serious, don’t spoil things by creating a back up plan (keeping someone else incase the relationship failed). When you do, you will eventually need it. Your back up plan will be the cause of the relationship failure.

Stop making negative assumption about the opposite sex in general. Don’t judge all the opposite sex because of the bad experience you had with few in time past. Not all men cheat. Not all women are unrepentant liar or materialistic. Judging the new people you are meeting based on the few you had met in time past might make you lose the chance of meeting good people. Don’t allow your past to change your outlook on life and people in a negative way. Negative mentality repeal positive and good people. It may also create a negative reality leading to vicious cycle of bad or unhealthy relationships.

Love Doctor’s Advice 004

When you are angry with your lover that is the time to keep quiet or think twice about what you are uttering. Because anger make us want to say something hurtful. You must be careful not to say anything that you will regret later. Words uttered during a fight can do a damage that will be irreparable if you fail to control your tongue. Make it a rule that during a misunderstanding in your relationship that you will attack issues(the cause of the quarrel) not personality(your lover).

 
Do you desire to make your lover happy when he/she does something for you and want them to do more of it. The secret is to lavish them with appreciation no matter how little what they did for you. Most time we make mistake of complaining about something in what they did. Why didn’t you buy this colour? Why didn’t you buy that instead of this? Why didn’t you do it this way? This kind of response discourage people. Learn to give appreciation generously. It gives encouragement and gladdens your lover’s heart. And if you are not satisfied with what they did instead of complaining tactfully suggest what you would have prefer next time they want to do the same thing after you must have shown them genuine appreciation.

 
Every once in a while surprise your lover with a gift for no particular reason. Gift brings down resistance and gladdens the heart of the receiver. The key to a lady’s heart is a gift. Men also love gift. Gift works like magic on all of us. Especially when the gift is coming from the person we love and cherish. We feel loved, appreciated, special and elated when someone special(a lover) get us a gift.

 
Whenever there is a problem in your relationship: Before you start thinking of what your partner did wrong. First figure out what you did to contribute to the problem. When you approach fights and misunderstanding in your relationship in this manner, you wouldn’t stay mad at each other for long. And it will be easy to resolve issue because you won’t be blaming everything on your lover. You will be able to see your own fault and start with your own apology which will make it easy for your partner to accept their fault and apologise too.

 
A Relationship without trust is destined to fail sooner or later. After you have established a heart connection with your partner, the next important thing to is to build up trust between the two of you. I trust you is more powerful than I love you. A cliche says don’t lie to someone that trust you and never trust a person who lies to you. The key to earning someone’s trust is being honest and truthful with them. Make effort to earn the trust of your partner. Trust is the bedrock of a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.