Tag: Mental well-being

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Stop making up excuses in your head for people, when they treat you badly or as an option just because you have become emotionally attached to them. People put in effort if they really want something to work. They make time for what they consider really important. They care and give attention to whomever they really love. Don’t be deceived by words. Pay attention to actions. Words can be deceiving but action don’t. Actions speak louder than words. People’s action is the true indicator of their true intentions.

Your partner determines how are you treated by his/her family. A mature person will take full responsibility to ensure there is a smooth relationship between his/her partner and family. Date someone who is mature enough to ensure his/her family treats you with respect. If you are being treated badly with disrespect by your in-laws it is often because of what your partner has said about you to them or because your partner fails to project you well or draw a line on what treatment he/she will tolerate/accept when it comes to you.

Don’t make a mistake of tolerating physical/emotional/mental abuse in a relationship. People who were murdered by their partner never saw it coming but must have noticed signs of excessive aggression in the partner at one point or the other. Don’t let your emotions blindfold you to your partner’s dangerous behaviour that poses a threat to your well-being or life. Don’t let an abusive relationship send you to an early grave. Always choose loneliness above an abusive partner/relationship. If it’s not healthy and loving it’s not worth it.

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Relationship is not a do or die affair. It is something to be enjoy not endure. Truth be told, relationship is not expected to be a bed of roses all of the time but it shouldn’t be a bed of thorns most/all of the time you are with your partner. The only relationship worthy of your time and effort is a healthy relationship. In a healthy relationship your efforts is appreciated and reciprocated. Don’t be in a relationship where you are the only one doing the loving, checking up and apologizing when things go wrong. Such relationship is not good for your mental and emotional well-being. You deserve a relationship where you are loved, cherish, appreciated, pampered and celebrated. So don’t settle for a relationship where you are treated badly or like you are a scumbag.

 
Do you know what you want in a relationship? Before starting a new relationship, the first and most important thing to do is to know exactly what you want in a relationship. Knowing what you want will prevent you from ending up with what you don’t want. After having a concrete knowledge of what you want in a relationship, you must be determined to fight the temptation to settle for less. People who settled for less usually regret it later and end up telling people that care to listen that they would have marry another person if not for one reason or another. It’s important to note that knowing what you want in a relationship has nothing to do with setting unrealistic standards. It involves knowing the qualities you want in a mate and how you want to be treated in a relationship.

 
You don’t need a perfect person in order to have a healthy and loving relationship. All you need is a person that is willing to put in effort needed to make you feel loved and happy. A person that wouldn’t take you for granted or become a source of pain and hurt to you after you have show how much you love him/her. A person that will value, respect, cherish and appreciate you. A person that will know your weakness, past mistakes, imperfection and flaws yet still finds you amazing and beautiful. A person that won’t get tired of you no matter how long you have been together. A person that will be faithful, committed and loyal to you. When you find such a person never take such for granted because relationship can only be healthy, loving and lasting if both partners are willing and committed to make it so.