Tag: Letting go

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When it comes to making decision concerning your relationship, always follow your heart. Pay attention to what your mind/inner voice is telling you. Don’t ignore the red flag just because you have become emotionally attached to the person in question.. And never ignore the green flag just because things don’t look rosy yet for the prospective partner or because of fear of what people will say based on your choice of partner. Be the master of your relationship fate. Don’t let people rush/pressurize you into a relationship or marriage with the wrong person. Don’t let people decide for you. When(the time) to marry or be in a relationship is totally up to you. Who(the person) you should get marry to or be in a relationship with is also totally up to you. Be open to advise but be sure you are the one making the final decision because it is you that will be in the relationship/marriage. Your happiness and peace of mind should be the one factor to determine if a relationship is worth your effort and time or not.

 

Atimes the best decision to make is to choose to let go. Don’t let the fear of the unknown and loneliness make you hold on tight to someone/relationship that is affecting your physical, mental and emotional well-being negatively. It is far better to be alone than to be in a relationship where you are made to feel lonely. A relationship is supposed to shield you from physical and emotional hurt/pain not to be the one causing it. Any relationship that is constantly taking away your peace of mind, happiness and sound sleep should be too expensive for you to maintain. Let go of who/what is hurting you. It won’t be easy from the beginning but it will get better with time and it will worth it in the long run.

 

A cheat will always be a cheat no matter what you do or didn’t do. A partner that want to cheat will always find a reason to cheat and an excuse to justify himself/herself. So Don’t be so hard on yourself when you find out your partner is cheating on you. It is not your fault. It doesn’t mean you are not good enough, beautiful enough or sexy enough. When your partner cheat on you it doesn’t show you have a problem but only indicates they have a problem with being faithful and loyal to a single partner. When you discovered that your partner is cheating but you still want to continue with the relationship then it’s better to focus on the real problem which is your cheating partner, don’t waste time fighting with who they cheated on you with. The only way to prevent your partner from cheating on you is to vividly put it across to him/her that you will not put up with being cheated on in a relationship. Let it be clear to your partner that if they step of the union to get sexual satisfaction there won’t be any union to come back to. Someone that truly loves you and want you to be part of his/her life will be willing to put in the effort to stay faithful and loyal to you because he/she won’t want to lose you when you make it clear that it’s either faithfulness or nothing at all. If he/she doesn’t stop sleeping around you should know that you don’t mean much to that person.

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Don’t Rush Into Relationship Because Of Loneliness

Relationship is not a do or die affair.

Relationship should not be rush into just because you dread the feeling of being lonely.

Don’t stay in a relationship that bring continuous sorrow and pain to you.

Life is too short so enjoy it while it last.

Our relationship determines to a great extent if we are going to enjoy our life on earth or not.

Though no relationship is perfect but a healthy relationship will not derail your life or career and bring you continuous sorrow, pain and sleepless night.

A person that truly loves you will always be careful not to hurt your feelings and make concerted effort to make you a happier and better person than you can be without him/her.

Relationship is not all about money.

Relationship is not all about catching feelings.

You must learn to develop your emotional intelligence so as to prevent your emotions from controlling your life.

You must not allow your emotion to always determine the direction of your life and relationship.

Only give your heart to someone that will value and take good care of it.

Stop chasing people that you need to convince before they notice your worth and uniqueness.

Quit worrying about someone who does not have time for you.

You don’t need to beg for attention and affection from a person that loves and values you.

Learn to let go of any person or relationship that continuously cause you pain and hurt your feelings.

Love yourself enough to only settle for someone that makes you happy and better.

Decide to always be with someone that cherish and appreciates you.

Decide from today that you will either be in a healthy relationship or remain single.

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What You Allow: Will Continue

There is no perfect relationship anywhere.

So don’t expect to have a perfect relationship but healthy and loving relationship is a realistic and attainable goal.

Every relationship has its own challenges but there are some issues that are not part of the challenges expected of a healthy relationship. Once they start showing up in your relationship then you should know that there is a fire on the mountain. Some of these issues include habitual cheating, physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional manipulation, financial exploitation among others.

However, lot of people faces these issues and have gotten accustom to it to the extent of seeing it as a normal part of a relationship which is totally unhealthy.

Virtually, all relationship start on a sweet, loving and romantic note until one of the partners start showing their true colour -character.

If all relationships continues the way they begin, most relationships will never come to an end.
People usually start showing their true colour in relationships when they notice that their partner has become emotionally attached to them or after they have gotten what they want.

It is important to pay attention when your people start acting “who they truly are”. Don’t ever make a mistake of re-painting people when they show you their true colour by making excuses for them because of your emotional attachment to them.

It is better to end a relationship when your partner start showing his or her true colour before you get deeply involved in the quagmire over the time and you wind up in a complicated relationship.

Some people believe that what will be, will be but i don’t think it is wise to totally depend on such philosophy when it comes to relationship.

My belief is you meet your partner by fate and you fell in love by chance but your relationship will only work out by choice- the decisions you and your partner make with respect to your relationship. This is due to the fact that relationship requires effort if it will stand the test of time and be a healthy one.
However, it takes two to tangle. Only you cannot make your relationship healthy, loving and lasting. You and your partner must be actively involved in building your relationship to be healthy, loving and lasting.

In the course of building your relationship a lot of things will happen both the good and the bad. For the good stuff, you must encourage, appreciate and reciprocate if you want it to continue. For the bad stuff, you must address if you want it to stop.
Many people don’t want to be perceived as a nag hence they chose to keep quiet when they notice something is not right in their relationship.

The problem is ignoring a bad situation doesn’t make it disappear as many may have wanted.

It usually make situation worse.

The only way to arrest a bad situation is to address it immediately it rises.

Some people ignore problem because of the fear of what the outcome will be if they address it.

There are two possibilities when you decide to address an issue bothering you in your relationship as a result of your partner’s behaviour. The first is, the situation maybe remedy and your relationship will get better. The second is, the situation may get worse and the relationship will come to an end. Both outcome are very important. The first one indicate that your partner truly love and value you and the relationship while the second indicate otherwise.

Atimes you must be willing to let go before you can make some people want to change for good and stop taking you for granted.

Don’t be afraid of losing a partner that is causing you to continually lose your happiness and peace of mind.

Don’t allow your fear for loneliness make you remain in a relationship that continuously bring you sadness and sorrow.

Don’t allow an abusive relationship make you lose your sanity or send you to an early grave.
Whenever you notice something is not right in your relationship or you caught your partner doing what is not right, it is important to address the situation before it get out of hand.

Beyonce and Cardi B once caught their partner Jay Z and Offset respectively cheating. They address the issue instead of pretending it doesn’t happen. They both made it clear to their partner that they would not tolerate a cheating partner. Beyonce warning for Jay Z gave rise to her song “Lemonade”. Cardi B likewise sang ” Be Careful” to warn her unfaithful fiance, Offset of Migos.
The bottomline is this:

What you continue to keep quiet about and endure will continue to happen in your relationship.

If you are not happy with the situation in your relationship be courageous enough to speak to your partner about it, don’t die in silence.

Relationship is not a do or die affair.

If it is not working and making you happier than you can be on your own let your partner know what he or she is not doing right. Demand a change, if they refuse to change for better it is okay if you work out of the relationship.

Don’t allow any relationship make you feel you deserve to be treated as a second fiddle.

Don’t allow anyone make you feel you deserve to be physically, mentally, sexually or emotionally abuse.

Don’t lose your dignity and self-worth while trying to hold on to a relationship with someone who doesn’t even care about your feelings or happiness.

If you don’t want it to continue, demand a change or walk away. If you tolerate it, it will continue.

Determination Is Not Desperation

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Determination is not desperation.

You must learn to differentiate between being determined to make a relationship work and being desperate to hold on to someone who is no longer emotional available to you or a relationship that is obviously heading nowhere.

It is important to know that not everyone you lose is a loss.

Any relationship you are in that doesn’t give you happiness and peace of mind doesn’t worth your time and effort.

One of the things we need to learn in life is to know when to let go and how to let go.

Stop holding on to something that is causing you nothing but pain and sadness.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to move on when it is over.

It is pointless crying over or trying to garner a spilled milk.