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Relationship is not a do or die affair. It is something to be enjoy not endure. Truth be told, relationship is not expected to be a bed of roses all of the time but it shouldn’t be a bed of thorns most/all of the time you are with your partner. The only relationship worthy of your time and effort is a healthy relationship. In a healthy relationship your efforts is appreciated and reciprocated. Don’t be in a relationship where you are the only one doing the loving, checking up and apologizing when things go wrong. Such relationship is not good for your mental and emotional well-being. You deserve a relationship where you are loved, cherish, appreciated, pampered and celebrated. So don’t settle for a relationship where you are treated badly or like you are a scumbag.

 
Do you know what you want in a relationship? Before starting a new relationship, the first and most important thing to do is to know exactly what you want in a relationship. Knowing what you want will prevent you from ending up with what you don’t want. After having a concrete knowledge of what you want in a relationship, you must be determined to fight the temptation to settle for less. People who settled for less usually regret it later and end up telling people that care to listen that they would have marry another person if not for one reason or another. It’s important to note that knowing what you want in a relationship has nothing to do with setting unrealistic standards. It involves knowing the qualities you want in a mate and how you want to be treated in a relationship.

 
You don’t need a perfect person in order to have a healthy and loving relationship. All you need is a person that is willing to put in effort needed to make you feel loved and happy. A person that wouldn’t take you for granted or become a source of pain and hurt to you after you have show how much you love him/her. A person that will value, respect, cherish and appreciate you. A person that will know your weakness, past mistakes, imperfection and flaws yet still finds you amazing and beautiful. A person that won’t get tired of you no matter how long you have been together. A person that will be faithful, committed and loyal to you. When you find such a person never take such for granted because relationship can only be healthy, loving and lasting if both partners are willing and committed to make it so.

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Relationship is not about finding someone that will provide solution to all your problems. Having such mentality will make you become a liability in your relationship. Rather focus on finding a partner that wouldn’t become another problem in your life. A/An cheating/aggressive/abusive/irresponsible partner will create more problems for you than the happiness they will bring you. Don’t ever settle for an abusive/unhealthy relationship with the hope that things will change for good soon while you keep putting up with the physical/emotional abuse, emotional pain and torture or domestic violence. Hope alone wouldn’t change an abusive partner/relationship for good. Many have gone to their early grave because of this foolish hope. Be wise, it is better to be alone than to endure an abusive relationship. Loneliness wouldn’t kill but abusive relationship has made many leave this world unceremoniously.

 
Everyone comes into a relationship with their baggages. A good relationship is the one where both partners help each other to unpack those baggages. Almost everyone has been hurt, cheated, betrayed, disappointed, lied to in their past relationships and all these have a way of shaping our beliefs about relationships and how we will behave towards our partner in the next relationship. Find someone that will help you unpack your baggages. Fine someone that will help you unlearn bad habit and drop negative belief you picked in your past relationships. Find someone that will assist you to become better person. Their are lots of healthy, loving, lasting and supportive relationships if you are yet to be in one keep searching don’t settle for less.

 
Trust is very important in a relationship. Most issues causing fight, misunderstanding, argument and quarrels can be trace back to trust issues. If you want a healthy, loving and lasting relationship ensure you build a solid foundation of trust between you and your partner. Try as much as possible to be honest, truthful and open about everything and anything that can hurt your partner’s feelings if they found out by themselves. Learn to prevent yourself from lying to someone you want to trust you because you will find it difficult yourself to trust someone who is fond of lying to you.

8 Tips For Finding True Love And Building A Lasting Relationship

stock-photo-two-lovers-couple-look-into-each-others-eyes-in-love-infatuated-460938703 (1)True love is difficult to find these days.

Building a lasting relationship in time when dating has become meaningless can be an herculean task but following the tips below will make your search easier and also equip you with the right knowledge to building a lasting and loving relationship.

1. Don’t look for love. Setting out to look for love is like setting up yourself for alot of heartbreaks.

Oftentimes love find us when we least expected.

So relax your mind. Go out and make friends with the opposite sex and don’t be in a hurry to be in a romantic relationship.

Don’t let people take advantage of your desperation.

2. Take care of yourself. You are the most important person in the world, treat yourself as such.

Look good. Dress well. Invest in your personal growth and development.

Make your life so attractive to the extent that others are riveted and genuinely want to be a part of it.

3. Love yourself enough to decide not to beg for attention or love.

Don’t allow anyone to abuse or manipulate you just because you want to be in a relationship.

Set a high standard for yourself such that you wouldn’t allow any person to treat you badly all in the name of relationship.

Don’t settle for less. Be with only the person that loves and values your person.

4. Stop carrying around the unnecessary baggages from your past relationships.

Let go of what has already gone.

Let go of those hurt and pain you experienced in your past relationship.

Just pick up the lessons and move on completely. Get over your feelings for your ex.

Don’t live in the past. Living in past will hinder you from being fully aware of what is going on around you in the present.

Let go of the past. Live fully in present and have a positive expectation for the future.

5. Work on your mentality. Most time we make wrong generalisation based on a handful bad encounter we had with the opposite sex.

This kind of thinking is absolutely unhealthy and it could probably prevent you from finding true love.

This is because what we think about always and believe have a strange power to influence our reality.

Don’t assume all men cheat because your ex cheated repeatedly on you before the relationship eventually ended.

Don’t ever assume all ladies are overly materialistic just because your ex left you for a richer guy.

Don’t judge everyone as bad based on few bad folks you have been with. There are lots of good people out there.

Believe so and it will become your reality soon.

6. Be open minded. Don’t expect love to come from a certain place or race. Love has no boundary.

Don’t be rigid minded when it comes to physical qualities.

Love has nothing to do with height, age, stature, religion or ethnicity.

Focusing too much on physical qualities may cause you to lose a chance of meeting a true lover.

Physical quality is ephemeral and fleeting.

Rather focus on ethereal and lasting qualities like good heart, good character, smart brain among others.

Don’t get me wrong am not saying attractive physical quality is not good.

What am saying is don’t over-focus on it to the extent of missing a great person that will love and care for you exactly the way you wanted just because he/she doesn’t met your physical quality benchmark.

7. When you meet someone who is interested in you.

Be calm and take things slow.

Make sure you are not rushing things.

Take time to know the person. So as not to fall in love with the wrong person.

Many single ladies have fall victim of this. They meet a guy and fail to find out enough information about the person but just fall in love with the man only to discovered that he is a married man with kids.

It is better to be left because you are too inquisitive than to be used and dumped because you failed to do your homework on knowing more about the person you just meet before getting too involved.

8. Don’t spoil it when you find it. Most time when we eventually find that special person that truly loves and cares about us, over time we forget all the pain, heartache and heartbreak we had encountered before finding true love.

Sooner or later we started taking things for granted. And start doing exactly the things that destroyed our past relationships.

My point is be careful not to use the bad habits you learned from your past relationships to destroy the new one.

Try to unlearn whatever bad habits you must have picked up from your past failed relationships.

learn to keep the fire of the love in your new relationship aflame. Love and respect your lover and never take them for granted.
I hope this is helpful to all my readers across the globe. I appreciate you all.

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