Stop making up excuses in your head for people, when they treat you badly or as an option just because you have become emotionally attached to them. People put in effort if they really want something to work. They make time for what they consider really important. They care and give attention to whomever they really love. Don’t be deceived by words. Pay attention to actions. Words can be deceiving but action don’t. Actions speak louder than words. People’s action is the true indicator of their true intentions.
Your partner determines how are you treated by his/her family. A mature person will take full responsibility to ensure there is a smooth relationship between his/her partner and family. Date someone who is mature enough to ensure his/her family treats you with respect. If you are being treated badly with disrespect by your in-laws it is often because of what your partner has said about you to them or because your partner fails to project you well or draw a line on what treatment he/she will tolerate/accept when it comes to you.
Don’t make a mistake of tolerating physical/emotional/mental abuse in a relationship. People who were murdered by their partner never saw it coming but must have noticed signs of excessive aggression in the partner at one point or the other. Don’t let your emotions blindfold you to your partner’s dangerous behaviour that poses a threat to your well-being or life. Don’t let an abusive relationship send you to an early grave. Always choose loneliness above an abusive partner/relationship. If it’s not healthy and loving it’s not worth it.