Tag: Imperfection

Relationship Nuggets 003

Relationship is not a do or die affair. It is something to be enjoy not endure. Truth be told, relationship is not expected to be a bed of roses all of the time but it shouldn’t be a bed of thorns most/all of the time you are with your partner. The only relationship worthy of your time and effort is a healthy relationship. In a healthy relationship your efforts is appreciated and reciprocated. Don’t be in a relationship where you are the only one doing the loving, checking up and apologizing when things go wrong. Such relationship is not good for your mental and emotional well-being. You deserve a relationship where you are loved, cherish, appreciated, pampered and celebrated. So don’t settle for a relationship where you are treated badly or like you are a scumbag.

 
Do you know what you want in a relationship? Before starting a new relationship, the first and most important thing to do is to know exactly what you want in a relationship. Knowing what you want will prevent you from ending up with what you don’t want. After having a concrete knowledge of what you want in a relationship, you must be determined to fight the temptation to settle for less. People who settled for less usually regret it later and end up telling people that care to listen that they would have marry another person if not for one reason or another. It’s important to note that knowing what you want in a relationship has nothing to do with setting unrealistic standards. It involves knowing the qualities you want in a mate and how you want to be treated in a relationship.

 
You don’t need a perfect person in order to have a healthy and loving relationship. All you need is a person that is willing to put in effort needed to make you feel loved and happy. A person that wouldn’t take you for granted or become a source of pain and hurt to you after you have show how much you love him/her. A person that will value, respect, cherish and appreciate you. A person that will know your weakness, past mistakes, imperfection and flaws yet still finds you amazing and beautiful. A person that won’t get tired of you no matter how long you have been together. A person that will be faithful, committed and loyal to you. When you find such a person never take such for granted because relationship can only be healthy, loving and lasting if both partners are willing and committed to make it so.

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See Beyond The Flaws

Most times we let ourselves get carried away by the idea of an ideal or perfect lover somewhere that we miss out on the opportunity of seeing the beauty and uniqueness of the person we already have in our life.

I must tell you that there is no perfect person anywhere.

And there is no perfect relationship anywhere.

Every individual have their flaws, secret and shortcomings just like you.

Every relationship has its good times and bad times. The only way to enjoy a loving and healthy relationship is to see beyond the flaws and imperfections of the person you are with.

Find their strengths and celebrate it.

Learn to accept people the way they are, flaws and all if their flaws wouldn’t cause you physical, mental and emotional harm.

The important thing is to find someone who is willing to be with you through thick and thin.

When you find such a person build a great relationship with them.

True love is not found but built. #278 Quote

Love Doctor’s Advice 008

Communication is the lifeline of a loving and healthy relationship. Make effort to communicate with your partner on a daily basis. Don’t assume your partner understand things. Assumptions is the cause of most misunderstanding and conflicts. Communicate your thoughts, fears, concerns and mood clearly. Make sure you are understood. When you make your partner understand what you are passing through, it will be easy for them to provide support. Regular communication makes partner not just lovers but also best friends.

 
There is nothing perfect in this imperfect world. No one is perfect including you. So stop expecting your partner to be perfect. Stop setting unrealistic expectations and standards for your partner. Accept your partner the way they are. If there is need for improvement, communicate it with love. Nothing transforms people faster than love. Complaining and nagging hardly works.

 
Don’t avoid arguments and misunderstanding by all cost in your relationship. Most relationships without little arguments and fights here and there, are usually full of secrets and partners who don’t really care. Give room for quarrels and misunderstanding, it enables you to know each other better. Though they must be handle maturely and you must put the relationship first ahead of individual’s ego.

 
Misunderstanding and conflicts are normal occurrence when two people from different backgrounds, exposure and temperament come together as one in a relationship. Expect and understand this so you don’t think you two have fall out of love when it starts happening. Create a harmless way to resolve the misunderstanding and conflicts that will inevitably happen in your relationship.You must resolved never to attack each other physically or use deregatory language against each other during quarrels. Such resolution helps a great deal. When you are determined to resolve issues and not dissolve your relationship. It will strengthen the bond between you and your partner.

 
Respect is very important in a relationship if you want it to be a healthy, loving and lasting one. You must respect your partner’s opinion, space and person- who they are. Respect should never be a one sided affair. It should not be genderly based. Respect should be reciprocated. Give your partner respect and expect it in return.

Perfectly Imperfect

You are perfectly imperfect just for me.

There is nothing more I could have asked for.

You are adorable, special and amazing.

Everything about you seems so unique and beautiful.

You are the perfect definition of beauty.

You are an angel sent from above to make my life a paradise on earth.

You don’t have the perfect body and the most beautiful face yet I wouldn’t trade you for those that have it.

Your beauty is ethereal because it transcend your facial and physical appearance.

You are so caring and loving.

I am very blessed to have you as my love, queen and angel.

You make my world come alive with your smile and love.

Each time you are with me I feel unspeakable and unfathomable joy.

You are my sunshine: because your presence has brighten up my existence.

You are everything I have ever wanted and dream of.

I Want all of you, your flaws, mistakes, smiles, imperfections, everything.

Believe me when I tell you that you are perfectly imperfect just for me.

I love you just the way you are.