Tag: Healthy relationship

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Happiness comes from within. If you are not happy with who you are, you will never be happy with what you have. It is not your partner’s duty to make you happy. Happiness is a personal decision. You can either choose to be happy or miserable. Your partner can only contribute to your happiness/misery. Choose to be happy and only settle for a partner that makes concerted effort to make you happier than you can ever be on your own. If you not happy find out why and not who to blame.

 

 

Relationship/marriage is not about finding someone that will complete you in order to get respect and approval from people/society. It is about finding someone who loves, care, values and respect you for who you are and wholeheartedly wants to be with you and not someone else.

 

 

Relationship is not a battlefield for superiority of one gender over another. Don’t be with someone who want to lord it over your life just because he is a male. Be with someone who truly loves you and place your happiness as a priority. Someone who is willing to do anything to make you happy, comfortable and feel appreciated as a woman: And don’t be with someone who is not willing to respect your leadership. Someone who continuously challenged your authority for no good reason other than to emasculate you as a man.

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Welcome to year 2019.

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Most of the time it’s not the person you miss, it’s the feelings and moments you had when you were with them. Don’t let a sweet moment and wonderful feelings you had in time pass tie you down to a person or relationship that has turned unhealthy, toxic or abusive when the person gets comfortable enough with you to start showing their true color.

 

 

Never change who you are(in a bad way) for someone’s approval/acceptance. Anyone that truly love you will accept and appreciate who you are and will never force you to do what you don’t want to do or what can have a negative repercussions on your future. Be proud of who you are in a positive way and only choose to be with people who see value in you and appreciate you for who you are.

 

 

You can’t have a perfect relationship because you are not perfect and nobody is. However, you can have a great relationship(a healthy and loving relationship). A great relationship begins when partners learn to appreciate their similarities(what they have in common) and respect their differences(what makes them unique as individuals).

 

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It’s Better To Be Single And Lonely

Two are better than one because they can keep each other’s company, make each other happy, care for each other, encourage and support each other.

This is the essence of a relationship.

Relationship should add value to our lives not detract it.

Relationship should make our lives easier not complicated.

Relationship should help us to become happier and better than we can be on our own not the other way round.

Relationship should help us stay focus on what is important and achieve our dreams and ambitions not distract us and hold us back.

Life has its ups and downs already relationship should not add to it. Many stuff in life for instance work causes stress so relationship should not compound it.

Relationship is not a do or die affair. You don’t have to be in a relationship just because you are afraid or tired of being single and lonely.

Don’t stay in a relationship that makes your life miserable and deprived you of your peace of mind and sound night sleep.

It’s is better to be alone than to be in a relationship with a partner who is doing any of the following:

 
1) A partner that takes you and your efforts for granted.

 
2) A partner that lies to you about everything and anything, making you look like a fool in the presence of others.

 
3) A partner that makes you look like a fool for caring too much.

 
4) A partner who put you in doubt about where you actually belong in their life. Someone who is not committed to you.

 
5) A partner who takes undue advantage of you financially or in any way just because they know you love them so much and you are willing to do anything for them.

 
6) A partner who feels like he or she is doing you a favor by being with you.

 
7) A partner who doesn’t respect, support or appreciate you.

 
8) A partner that abuses you physically, emotionally, mentally or sexually.

 
9) A partner who sees and treats you as a competitor and feels threatened by your success and progress in life and career especially when you are getting ahead of them.

 
10) A partner who you have to beg for his/her attention and affection.

 
Relationship should be something you start because you have found the right person who is willing to put in the same effort you will put to ensure things work out.

Relationship should only start when you have find that one person that truly loves and cares about you just the same you do about them and also need you in his/her life to complete and compliment it like you also need them.

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Competition is not ideal in a healthy relationship. It breeds a hostile atmosphere. Relationship is about togetherness not battle of the sexes. Relationship is not about fighting for which gender is superior. Healthy relationship involves two partners supporting and understanding each other. The right mindset in a relationship should be to see the failure of one as the failure of all: And same for success. Partners should encourage each other to break boundaries not compete with each other for who will be more successful and richer. See your partner as your team mate not as your competitor. When you support each other, you will grow, succeed and stay together.

 

Be careful of who you tell everything that happens in your relationship and who you run to for relationship advice. Most people you see as friends are not really your friends. Oftentimes they get jealous and bitter when you tell them about the happenings in your relationship. Most times your friends wish they have the kind of relationship you have that you are still complaining one or two things about to them. Human are naturally jealous and envious when they see people who have what they lack. And very few people can keep their jealous/envy under control, most people usually allow it to control them. This fact can make your friends give you advice that will make you do stuff that will ruin your relationship or even snatch away your partner from you. So before you take advice from a friend, you should always ask yourself will it help improve your relationship or make things worse.

 

Faithfulness is becoming a rare trait these days. If you want a faithful partner you must first choose to be a faithful person yourself. Then you must be determined never to settle for a cheating/unfaithful partner. Work on yourself to get to the state of mind when you tell a cheating partner to be faithful or lose you irrespective of how much you love and want to be with that person. Grow and develop yourself in every aspect of your life. When you work on yourself to become someone of great value it will become difficult for you to tolerate shit in a relationship. Make yourself that partner that brings value to a relationship apart from money(man) and your body(woman). Make yourself that partner that someone is afraid to lose because it will be difficult to replace him/her. Be a faithful and value adding partner.

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Relationship is not a do or die affair. It is something to be enjoy not endure. Truth be told, relationship is not expected to be a bed of roses all of the time but it shouldn’t be a bed of thorns most/all of the time you are with your partner. The only relationship worthy of your time and effort is a healthy relationship. In a healthy relationship your efforts is appreciated and reciprocated. Don’t be in a relationship where you are the only one doing the loving, checking up and apologizing when things go wrong. Such relationship is not good for your mental and emotional well-being. You deserve a relationship where you are loved, cherish, appreciated, pampered and celebrated. So don’t settle for a relationship where you are treated badly or like you are a scumbag.

 
Do you know what you want in a relationship? Before starting a new relationship, the first and most important thing to do is to know exactly what you want in a relationship. Knowing what you want will prevent you from ending up with what you don’t want. After having a concrete knowledge of what you want in a relationship, you must be determined to fight the temptation to settle for less. People who settled for less usually regret it later and end up telling people that care to listen that they would have marry another person if not for one reason or another. It’s important to note that knowing what you want in a relationship has nothing to do with setting unrealistic standards. It involves knowing the qualities you want in a mate and how you want to be treated in a relationship.

 
You don’t need a perfect person in order to have a healthy and loving relationship. All you need is a person that is willing to put in effort needed to make you feel loved and happy. A person that wouldn’t take you for granted or become a source of pain and hurt to you after you have show how much you love him/her. A person that will value, respect, cherish and appreciate you. A person that will know your weakness, past mistakes, imperfection and flaws yet still finds you amazing and beautiful. A person that won’t get tired of you no matter how long you have been together. A person that will be faithful, committed and loyal to you. When you find such a person never take such for granted because relationship can only be healthy, loving and lasting if both partners are willing and committed to make it so.

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Relationship is not about finding someone that will provide solution to all your problems. Having such mentality will make you become a liability in your relationship. Rather focus on finding a partner that wouldn’t become another problem in your life. A/An cheating/aggressive/abusive/irresponsible partner will create more problems for you than the happiness they will bring you. Don’t ever settle for an abusive/unhealthy relationship with the hope that things will change for good soon while you keep putting up with the physical/emotional abuse, emotional pain and torture or domestic violence. Hope alone wouldn’t change an abusive partner/relationship for good. Many have gone to their early grave because of this foolish hope. Be wise, it is better to be alone than to endure an abusive relationship. Loneliness wouldn’t kill but abusive relationship has made many leave this world unceremoniously.

 
Everyone comes into a relationship with their baggages. A good relationship is the one where both partners help each other to unpack those baggages. Almost everyone has been hurt, cheated, betrayed, disappointed, lied to in their past relationships and all these have a way of shaping our beliefs about relationships and how we will behave towards our partner in the next relationship. Find someone that will help you unpack your baggages. Fine someone that will help you unlearn bad habit and drop negative belief you picked in your past relationships. Find someone that will assist you to become better person. Their are lots of healthy, loving, lasting and supportive relationships if you are yet to be in one keep searching don’t settle for less.

 
Trust is very important in a relationship. Most issues causing fight, misunderstanding, argument and quarrels can be trace back to trust issues. If you want a healthy, loving and lasting relationship ensure you build a solid foundation of trust between you and your partner. Try as much as possible to be honest, truthful and open about everything and anything that can hurt your partner’s feelings if they found out by themselves. Learn to prevent yourself from lying to someone you want to trust you because you will find it difficult yourself to trust someone who is fond of lying to you.

Don’t Rush Into Relationship Because Of Loneliness

Relationship is not a do or die affair.

Relationship should not be rush into just because you dread the feeling of being lonely.

Don’t stay in a relationship that bring continuous sorrow and pain to you.

Life is too short so enjoy it while it last.

Our relationship determines to a great extent if we are going to enjoy our life on earth or not.

Though no relationship is perfect but a healthy relationship will not derail your life or career and bring you continuous sorrow, pain and sleepless night.

A person that truly loves you will always be careful not to hurt your feelings and make concerted effort to make you a happier and better person than you can be without him/her.

Relationship is not all about money.

Relationship is not all about catching feelings.

You must learn to develop your emotional intelligence so as to prevent your emotions from controlling your life.

You must not allow your emotion to always determine the direction of your life and relationship.

Only give your heart to someone that will value and take good care of it.

Stop chasing people that you need to convince before they notice your worth and uniqueness.

Quit worrying about someone who does not have time for you.

You don’t need to beg for attention and affection from a person that loves and values you.

Learn to let go of any person or relationship that continuously cause you pain and hurt your feelings.

Love yourself enough to only settle for someone that makes you happy and better.

Decide to always be with someone that cherish and appreciates you.

Decide from today that you will either be in a healthy relationship or remain single.

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