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Relationship Nuggets 004

Love involves making sacrifices. However, it is totally unwise to make sacrifices blindly for someone just because you love him/her. Before you make sacrifices in a relationship, you need to ask yourself if the person you want to make sacrifice for will do the same for you if you are in his/her position. You deserve the kind of love you give out. Love is not just about giving, it also involves receiving. Don’t be the only one going out of your way to ensure the relationship continue to exist. If the feelings, effort and sacrifice are not mutual then it is not good for your mental and emotional well-being. Stay clear of any person that pressurise you to make sacrifices for them before starting a relationship with you or a partner that put continuous pressure on you to make sacrifices for them and start acting funny each time you are unable to do what they want. People like these are not with you because they want to be with you but for what they stand to gain from being with you.

 

 
There is no amount of sacrifices you can make for someone in the name of love that will make him/her to stay in your life forever if he/she doesn’t want to stay. Making sacrifices for someone that doesn’t love you will make him/her sees you as a means to achieve his/her ends. Such a person will eventually leave you after using you to achieve their ends. Be wise, only make sacrifices for people that truly loves you and will deeply appreciate your efforts for them. Make sacrifices for people you are assured of your position in their lifes. People who won’t hesitate to do more than you have done for them in the relationship when the need arises.

 

 

Communication is key to building a healthy and loving relationship. If you want to retain the fire of romance between you and your partner make effort to communicate on a daily basis when you are together and when you far apart. And you don’t need to have something special to discuss before you reach out to your partner. Create an enabling environment for easy flow of communication between you and your partner. Make your partner feel at ease to say out their mind without the fear of being judged or criticized. Regular communication will make the bond between you and your partner grow stronger and it will also help you and your partner to understand each other better day by day. If you want to be your partner’s best friend and confidant improve on the level of communication between you and him/her.

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Faithfulness Is Romantic, Sweet And Safe

Faithfulness to one partner is not boring contrary to popular opinion among cheats or unfaithful partners.

A scholar once said we are pluralistic in nature, hence the reason most people find it difficult to remain faithful to one partner.

This might not be completely true but to a certain degree it is the truth for some people because they have never been completely faithful to a single partner since they have venture into the world of relationship.

I will be honest with you, we are humans, imperfect being. We goof often.

We are constantly striving to maintain a balance between two forces (Good and bad forces) pulling us towards theirselves.

Hence, the numerous temptation we face as human.

However, facing numerous temptation is not a justification to do what is not right.

It is important to stress that as a human we are also equiped with the capacity and strong-will to chose to do the right thing inspite of mounting temptation.

A matured person understands that to every action there is equal and opposite reaction.

In other words, every single action carries a consequence.

A matured person often consider the consequence of his/her action before making decision to either take it or not.

Relationship and marriages are meant for matured people.

My advice for any person who is searching for a partner for serious relationship or marriage is that you should make maturity as your number one criterion.

It is important state that age is not synonymous with maturity.

A matured person understands that once you are in a relationship your action will affect your partner either positively or negatively.

This knowledge should influence our decision in relationship.

Relationship has to do with put your partner’s feeling into consideration before doing anything that will directly or indirectly affect him/her.

A matured man will stay faithful to a single woman.

A real man understands that his manliness is not measure by the number of women he keeps as his sexual partners.

A matured woman will also stay faithful to one man.

A real woman doesn’t share her body with numerous men.

Her sense of importance, attractiveness and class are not dependent on the number of men she keeps or sleep with.

Relationship is sweet when there is love.

Love is sweet and waxes stronger day by day when there is trust.

Guess what, honesty and faithfulness beget and retain trust. If you want to enjoy your life and relationship find someone you love and be faithful to him/her.

Then begin to build a great life and relationship together as a team.

Faithfulness is number one quality most people desire in a partner.

Don’t demand what you can’t give. If you want a faithful partner, you must be determine to be one yourself.

Faithfulness is never boring.

Faithfulness is sweet, romantic and possible though it require self control and discipline.

Faithfulness helps protect you from contacting sexually transmitted diseases.

Lastly, sex get better and sweeter with the same partner with time not boring.

So let go of the myth that claim you will get bored, tired or satiated when you keep having sex with the same person for a long period.

It’s a lie.

Faithfulness to one partner in a relationship and marriage is not boring and impossible.

It is possible with determination and self control.

It is sweet and romantic in the sense that it helps you to concentrate your attention and affection on your partner alone which will help you know each other better and be able to build stronger bond necessary to keep aflame the fire of love and romance in the relationship.

It also enhance peace of mind.

Staying faithful to your partner is one of the best decision you will ever make in life. Thank you

Love Knows No Boundary

Love is beautiful, ethereal and divine.

It has no boundary.

Love is not dependent on race, colour, religion or ethnicity.

Where there is love age, distance, weight and height are just numbers.

Love supercedes religion and ethnicity.

Love don’t wait for permission before it happens.

We don’t find love, love finds us.

Never let go of love because of differences in religion, tribe, educational status, financial status, social class or race.

Let love always lead the way.

Love doesn’t harm.

It doesn’t manipulate or take undue advantage.

It is not selfish.

Love abides till death separate.

Love is never one sided.

Love don’t just take, it also give back.

Love is the essense of life.

Love make everyone of us come alive.

Love breeds trust.

Love gives hope, joy and untold happiness.

Love is life.

Life is meaningless and boring without love.

Love is our soft spot.

Love is never a weakness but strength.

Love is not for the feeble minded.

It takes courage to fall in love and give your heart away to a stranger without the certainty that it will not be broken into pieces.

Love accentuate our humanity.

Love bring out the best in us.

Love is tender, caring, understanding, accommodating and forgiving.

Love is medicinal to the heart that carries it.

Without love humanity is bound for self destruction.

Don’t ever hate love or doubt its existence.

Don’t ever give up on love.

If you are yet to find love, keep searching it will find you soon.

If you have found love, cherish it and never take it for granted or let go.

Love is beautiful and it will make your life bright and beautiful.

Don’t fall in love with the wrong person.

A person that will abuse, manipulate or mistreat you.

Watch out for the character of your potential partner because it matters in the long run.

Make sure you wait for the right person. A person that will cherish, value and celebrate you.

How To Attract Your Dream Partner: 12 Qualities That Will Help You Get Mr/Mrs Right Quickly

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Few hundred years ago, there was a gardener who lives in a village named Ilaro in Ogun State, Nigeria. He loves the sight of butterflies in the garden of people around him. He admire the beauty and colourfulness butterflies bring to a garden.

So he started cultivating one for himself but to his uttermost surprise he find it difficult to attract a butterfly into his garden.

This gardener was so worried that he didn’t have butterflies in his garden.

He tried to attract butterflies using different methods but all his efforts was futile.

So he finally decided to seek the advice of a wise man. When he got to the wiseman abode he narrated his ordeal as touching his garden. After listening to what the gardener had to say.

The wise man said “don’t chase the butterfly, mend your garden, let the butterfly come. Chasing the butterfly into your garden will cost lots of time and energy. And if the garden lacks what will attract and keep the butterfly in the garden your efforts will not yield a desirable result”.

This, I think, is a great analogy for the right approach to finding Mr/Mrs right for ourselves.

In the light of the analogy, chasing or searching for Mr/ Mrs right when you are not working on yourself to be a Mr/ Mrs right will cost you lot of effort, time and heartbreaks.

This is because we tend to attract people like us in some sort of ways.

This is based on law of attraction.

Instead of focusing too much of your time and energy on the search for Mr/ Mrs right, I believe it is sensible to groom yourself into Mr/ Mrs right that someone somewhere is diligently searching for.

It is important to note that Mr/ Mrs right are also seeking for their own Mr/Mrs right.

Hence, it will be logical to conclude that working on yourself to develop qualities that are admirable and expected of a Mr/ Mrs right will drastically increase your chances of meeting your Mr/ Mrs right sooner than you expected.

We must mend our garden in order to attract the butterfly that will beautify our garden effortlessly. I mean we must work on ourselves so as to be able to attract the right person to our lives.

The person that will help make it more beautiful and better.
So what can you do to increase your chances of meeting the love of your life sooner.

I have taken my time to identify 12 qualities that will help you become more attractive and riveting which will in turn increases your chances of meeting and keeping the special person for life.

I assured you that working on these qualities will be of immerse help to your quest to find the right partner for a lifetime. Let’s begin the journey together :

1. Self Confidence: To be successful in every area of life you need self confidence. Self confidence allows you to give full expression to your uniqueness and personality.

Ladies are attracted to men who have confidence in themselves. Self confidence is attractive.

2. Dress well: It is not a new thing that you will be addressed exactly the way you are dressed. If you dress attractively, people will find you attractive.

Never should you neglect your appearance because it is very important and it determines how people see you. Always dress in a way that you will leave a great impression on the people’s minds about you.

Be moderate though. Be neat, smart and well cultured in the way you dress.

3. Generousity: Everyone loves the cheerful giver. Stinginess is a big turn off. To be generous you don’t have to blow up your budget.

Ladies love generous guys. Generosity makes you appear larger than life.

4. Be Yourself. You are unique and special just the way you are. Everyone has got his/ her own uniqueness, style, personality and strength. Fine yours and give full expression to it.

Don’t try to act like someone else in order to get somebody’s attention. You don’t need it. The best thing is to find someone that will love, accept and appreciate you just the way you are. Be your original self.

5. Get A Life: Make sure you have something going on for yourself. Build a great life that others will find attractive and genuinely want to be a part of.

Find a passion or purpose for your life. Something that will make you grow and learn. Something that will challenge you to keep improving yourself and getting better on a regular basis.

Find something that will make you full of life and enthusiasm. This is a very attractive quality. People will be curious and attracted to you.

6. Maturity: Everyone includes maturity as one of the qualities that is admirable in a partner. You must learn to conduct yourself in a mature manner.

Dress, communicate and relate with others in a mature way.

7. Invest In Yourself: Your greatest asset is your mind. Invest in it through education. Feed your mind with positive stuffs. Your mind influence your thinking and your thinking influence your life.

Develop your mind to be able to hold an intelligent conversation not just gist and gossip.

Try to acquire skills that will add value to your life and get you income. Make yourself an asset not a liability.

8. Treat People Well: Learn to be respectful. Don’t be rude to people. Treat people well no matter who they are.

How you treat people speak volume of who you are. And who you are determines what people tell others about you and the people who you are attracted to. Be good to people so as to attract good people into your life.

9. Don’t Be Shy: You must learn to get out of your shell and meet people.

Be a conversationalist.

Learn how to communicate and interract with people especially strangers. You never can say who will be the special person.

Breaking up your shell and meeting people out there will definitely increase your chances of meeting the love of your life sooner than later. Don’t be shy. You are not born shy.

10. Be Assertive: Always assert yourself. Don’t be intimidated by anyone. Let people know your stand.

Let it be known to people what you will not accept or tolerate. This quality is very attractive both in men and women.

It makes you look strong, bold, confident and on top of your game. It makes it clear that you respect yourself. It will make you attract people that will also respect you and treat you exactly how you wanted.

11. Be Genuinely Interested In Others: Be interested in really wanting to know more about people.

One secret of getting people to be interested in you, is to show them you are interested in them.

Get out of your small self and meet people, you never can tell who will find you amazing and fascinating.

When you show genuine interest in people they will perceive you as an interesting person which is a good thing.

If you are not in a relationship yet go out and meet people but don’t be in a rush to find a romantic partner.

12. Don’t Rush: This is applicable to the ladies. Don’t rush the connection process when you met a new guy.

Trying to rush things will produce a negative result.

Rushing things will make you appear desperate for love and relationship.

Desperation makes you a perfect victim for exploitation and manipulation by some guys.

Take your time but be assertive. Know exactly what you want from the relationship.

If you can’t get what you want there is no need to waste your precious time in the relationship.

The secret of success in any endeavors is to identify the factors necessary for success. After identifying the factors you must successfully separate the ones you have control over and those you can’t control.

What will determine whether you will succeed or not, is your ability to master the factors you have control over.

My point is this, you don’t have control over the butterfly but you do have control over your garden.

You don’t have control over who will be the Mr/Mrs right or the time you will met each other.

However, you have control over making yourself someone’s Mr/ Mrs right. Take control of that.
I hope you find this very helpful and quite informative.

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