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Competition is not ideal in a healthy relationship. It breeds a hostile atmosphere. Relationship is about togetherness not battle of the sexes. Relationship is not about fighting for which gender is superior. Healthy relationship involves two partners supporting and understanding each other. The right mindset in a relationship should be to see the failure of one as the failure of all: And same for success. Partners should encourage each other to break boundaries not compete with each other for who will be more successful and richer. See your partner as your team mate not as your competitor. When you support each other, you will grow, succeed and stay together.

 

Be careful of who you tell everything that happens in your relationship and who you run to for relationship advice. Most people you see as friends are not really your friends. Oftentimes they get jealous and bitter when you tell them about the happenings in your relationship. Most times your friends wish they have the kind of relationship you have that you are still complaining one or two things about to them. Human are naturally jealous and envious when they see people who have what they lack. And very few people can keep their jealous/envy under control, most people usually allow it to control them. This fact can make your friends give you advice that will make you do stuff that will ruin your relationship or even snatch away your partner from you. So before you take advice from a friend, you should always ask yourself will it help improve your relationship or make things worse.

 

Faithfulness is becoming a rare trait these days. If you want a faithful partner you must first choose to be a faithful person yourself. Then you must be determined never to settle for a cheating/unfaithful partner. Work on yourself to get to the state of mind when you tell a cheating partner to be faithful or lose you irrespective of how much you love and want to be with that person. Grow and develop yourself in every aspect of your life. When you work on yourself to become someone of great value it will become difficult for you to tolerate shit in a relationship. Make yourself that partner that brings value to a relationship apart from money(man) and your body(woman). Make yourself that partner that someone is afraid to lose because it will be difficult to replace him/her. Be a faithful and value adding partner.

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Relationship Nuggets 004

Love involves making sacrifices. However, it is totally unwise to make sacrifices blindly for someone just because you love him/her. Before you make sacrifices in a relationship, you need to ask yourself if the person you want to make sacrifice for will do the same for you if you are in his/her position. You deserve the kind of love you give out. Love is not just about giving, it also involves receiving. Don’t be the only one going out of your way to ensure the relationship continue to exist. If the feelings, effort and sacrifice are not mutual then it is not good for your mental and emotional well-being. Stay clear of any person that pressurise you to make sacrifices for them before starting a relationship with you or a partner that put continuous pressure on you to make sacrifices for them and start acting funny each time you are unable to do what they want. People like these are not with you because they want to be with you but for what they stand to gain from being with you.

 

 
There is no amount of sacrifices you can make for someone in the name of love that will make him/her to stay in your life forever if he/she doesn’t want to stay. Making sacrifices for someone that doesn’t love you will make him/her sees you as a means to achieve his/her ends. Such a person will eventually leave you after using you to achieve their ends. Be wise, only make sacrifices for people that truly loves you and will deeply appreciate your efforts for them. Make sacrifices for people you are assured of your position in their lifes. People who won’t hesitate to do more than you have done for them in the relationship when the need arises.

 

 

Communication is key to building a healthy and loving relationship. If you want to retain the fire of romance between you and your partner make effort to communicate on a daily basis when you are together and when you far apart. And you don’t need to have something special to discuss before you reach out to your partner. Create an enabling environment for easy flow of communication between you and your partner. Make your partner feel at ease to say out their mind without the fear of being judged or criticized. Regular communication will make the bond between you and your partner grow stronger and it will also help you and your partner to understand each other better day by day. If you want to be your partner’s best friend and confidant improve on the level of communication between you and him/her.

7 Mistakes You Must Avoid If You Want To Be A Wife Material- A Lady Worth Keeping Forever.

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Lots of ladies enter into relationship with the hope of getting the ring but oftentimes things don’t turn out as expected. This usually make ladies assess themselves to know if they are qualify to be tag a wife material or not.

One thing i want all ladies out there to know is that it is not the man that determines if you are worth keeping(a wife material) or playing, it’s you.

Don’t hate the player, hate the game.

Relationship can be liken to a game. It has a rule and if you don’t know the rules you can’t win. You will be played like a fool. For you to win in any game you must understand the rules and code of the game.

Some ladies are being played by men simply because they don’t know the rules men play by. You can’t control how your opponent play but you have complete control over how you play.

A wise player wouldn’t worry too much about the other player, instead she will focus on mastering the game.

In a similar vein, as a lady you don’t have control over the intention of a guy towards you but you have total control over the impression you make on guys. You don’t determine if a guy will chose to be a player or keeper but you determine if you are worth being keep by a keeper.

In other words, you don’t have power to make a guy stay forever but you have power over portraying yourself as someone worth staying with forever.

So lets discuss the rules you must play by so that any man will see you as the type of lady to be kept (wife material).

We shall talk about what you need to control and master to avoid being played by players and prove you are worth being kept by a keeper.

The following are some mistakes ladies make which give them away cheaply and make them fall victim to players and make keepers think twice about keeping them.

 
1. Giving sex before establishing a serious relationship: You should know that no guy will put in the extra effort or go the extra mile to prove his love for you if what he is looking for is already given to him as freebies.

Never make a mistake of putting yourself in a situation where you are forced to ask “what are we?” after going down with each other. The question “what are we?” must first be settled before anything intimate.

 
2. Going with the flow: Never go with the flow if you don’t want to end up wasting your time. Am not saying you should force things. What am saying is be sure of what you have. Don’t guess, be sure.

Is it something serious with future prospect or just something for the moment.

Stop giving a guy a benefit of doubt when all he does is to make you doubt your position in his life while he is the only one enjoying the benefit. Don’t let any guy take undue advantage of you and also waste your precious time by putting you on a “long thing”.

 
3. Being moderate/modest: Don’t dress in a way that make guys conclude you are a hoe. Dress and conduct yourself exactly the way you will want people to perceive and address you.

 
4. Thinking all it takes to keep a man is good love making skills: That is very important though but you must raise your game above that.

Prove you are someone he can run to for sound advice. Don’t just bring your body to the relationship but also bring your mind. Make sure you are not bringing a dull mind though.

 
5. Expecting a man/relationship to be a jackpot to the good life: Relationship is not a source of income.

Men are not your gateway out of poverty except you want to turn yourself to a whore.

The best thing to do is to make you own money. Have plan for your life. Build a career for yourself. Be a lady that want a guy in her life not the one that need a man to survive.

 
6. Keeping more than one relationship at a time: A man that will be faithful and loyal to you for a lifetime will definitely want to be sure you are capable of same feat before taking you more serious and worthy of being kept forever.

Many guys will rather settle down for a lady that is not so beautiful but faithful and loyal over a very beautiful lady that find it difficult to be loyal and faithful for whatsoever reason. Be the faithful and loyal lady that any man will gladly want to make his wife without the fear of unfaithfulness and promiscusity.

 
7. Tolerating just any kind of thing: Guys want a lady that know her onions. Be a lady with dignity and self respect. Always hold your head up high. Carry yourself with confidence. Don’t allow any guy to disrespect you. Have rule and standard.

Set a limit or boundary for people concerning your private life and behaviours you will tolerate and reject. You should that what you tolerate teaches people how to treat you.
Learn the rules and avoid being played around like a novice.

My First One Month Of Blogging

Today marks a month I started this blog site.

I am really glad that I finally got a medium to let the world know about my philosophy and ideology about relationships and life in general.

I really appreciate every single person that have visited my blog and read through my posts.

I appreciate those that like and comment on my post.

I appreciate those that are following me.

I really appreciate all the people from Nigeria, South Africa, Egypt, America,United Kingdom, European Union and other countries that I can’t mention who do visit my blog.

I really wish to hear how much my write up has helped improve your relationship.

I must not forget to thank a certain  viewer from America that is always the first to see my post.

I appreciate every single person who has visited and view my post. You guys are the reason I stay up late at night to write and post.

I love you all….

Thank you….

E Se pupo which means thanks a lot in Yoruba language.

Please keep visiting and viewing my post. I will be greatly honored if you can also share the post with others on your social media page.

Thank you once again

12 Steps That Will Help You Get Over A Heartbreak

Tips For Getting Over Heartbreak And Moving Forward With Your Life To A Better Relationship.

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How To Get Over A Heartbreak

  • Seek to love yourself
  • Move on with your life
  • Meet new people
  • Allow time to heal the hurt
  • Don’t rush into another relationship
  • Fall in love when you meet the right person
  • Learn to let go of what is gone
  • Stop blaming yourself
  • Get yourself involved into something that will add spices and value to your life
  • Set better relationship goals
  • Don’t blame your failed love affair on the opposite sex. Never assume all men or women are the same
  • Learn your lesson and turn it into wisdom to guide you from making the same mistake.

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Love Doctor’s Advice 001

What you allow in your relationship will continue until you put an end to it. If you are not happy say it. Stop suffering in silence.

 

Learn to let go of what has already gone. Letting go of what doesn’t serve you anymore is the key to inner peace and true happiness. So stop trying to keep into your life anyone who made it clear he or she is no longer emotionally available for you.

 

Cheating is never a mistake but a choice. If you truly love someone and you don’t want to lose him or her, you should think twice about cheating on them. Because cheating damage trust and destroy relationships.

 

Relationship is a two way thing. It should never be a one-sided affair. Relationship is sweet, enjoyable and encouraging when the two lovers are actively involved in making things work. But it will be frustrating, exasperating and unhealthy if it is only one person striving to make sure things work out.

 

Giving someone a second chance is not bad thing: but you must be careful of who you are giving a second chance. So you don’t end up giving someone a second chance to hurt, exploit and manipulate you better than they did before. The best thing to do sometimes is to forgive and forget about them.

I Can’t Do It Alone: Lets Do This Together

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I created this blog inorder to help people enjoy their relationship.

My goal is to continuously  write articles that will add value and help improve people’s relationship.

My joy is to get feedback from people whose relationship/love pursuit has been made lot easier through the post on this blog and  people already in a relationships who have been able to improve their relationships through my posts.

However, one is too small to achieve much.

A tree doesn’t make a forest.

I can’t do it alone.

I need your support through sharing my post on your social media pages.

Lets work together as a team.

Anytime you read a post that is helpful to you please click on the share button.

Please you should also tell your friends about the blog.

Lets work together to acheive a happy love life for each and everyone.

You can also talk to me if you need to talk to someone concerning any relationship issue bothering you.

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