Category: Relationship nuggets

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A mature person understand fully well that physical attraction is not a strong foundation upon which the bricks of a serious relationship can be laid hence it shouldn’t be the main reason to start a relationship. If you desire a loving, healthy and long term relationship you must discipline yourself to look beyond the obvious. Focus more on more important and lasting qualities like character, behaviour, mindset, ambition, goals among others rather than transient thing like physical features- attractive face, sexy body and so on. Physical attraction is definitely important but it will not determine how he/she will treat you in the relationship but their character will.

 
Every conflict in a relationship present an opportunity to reveal the true identity/nature of your partner. Anger atimes gives people the boldness to say what they have been hiding in the deepest part of their soul.

 
Never should you lose your voice in a relationship. A relationship where you can’t give voice to your emotions, fear, concerns and discomfort is not healthy. A relationship should be where you express yourself without the fear of being judged. Encourage your partner to express himself/herself and do the same. It is therapeutic.

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Happiness comes from within. If you are not happy with who you are, you will never be happy with what you have. It is not your partner’s duty to make you happy. Happiness is a personal decision. You can either choose to be happy or miserable. Your partner can only contribute to your happiness/misery. Choose to be happy and only settle for a partner that makes concerted effort to make you happier than you can ever be on your own. If you not happy find out why and not who to blame.

 

 

Relationship/marriage is not about finding someone that will complete you in order to get respect and approval from people/society. It is about finding someone who loves, care, values and respect you for who you are and wholeheartedly wants to be with you and not someone else.

 

 

Relationship is not a battlefield for superiority of one gender over another. Don’t be with someone who want to lord it over your life just because he is a male. Be with someone who truly loves you and place your happiness as a priority. Someone who is willing to do anything to make you happy, comfortable and feel appreciated as a woman: And don’t be with someone who is not willing to respect your leadership. Someone who continuously challenged your authority for no good reason other than to emasculate you as a man.

Happy New Year Friends.

Welcome to year 2019.

I will be adding a new category title “No Romance Without Finance” to my blog this year. This category will contain step by step instructions on how to produce a particular product which you can use to start a small/medium business which will generate income for you. Watch out

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Most of the time it’s not the person you miss, it’s the feelings and moments you had when you were with them. Don’t let a sweet moment and wonderful feelings you had in time pass tie you down to a person or relationship that has turned unhealthy, toxic or abusive when the person gets comfortable enough with you to start showing their true color.

 

 

Never change who you are(in a bad way) for someone’s approval/acceptance. Anyone that truly love you will accept and appreciate who you are and will never force you to do what you don’t want to do or what can have a negative repercussions on your future. Be proud of who you are in a positive way and only choose to be with people who see value in you and appreciate you for who you are.

 

 

You can’t have a perfect relationship because you are not perfect and nobody is. However, you can have a great relationship(a healthy and loving relationship). A great relationship begins when partners learn to appreciate their similarities(what they have in common) and respect their differences(what makes them unique as individuals).

 

Merry Christmas……

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Competition is not ideal in a healthy relationship. It breeds a hostile atmosphere. Relationship is about togetherness not battle of the sexes. Relationship is not about fighting for which gender is superior. Healthy relationship involves two partners supporting and understanding each other. The right mindset in a relationship should be to see the failure of one as the failure of all: And same for success. Partners should encourage each other to break boundaries not compete with each other for who will be more successful and richer. See your partner as your team mate not as your competitor. When you support each other, you will grow, succeed and stay together.

 

Be careful of who you tell everything that happens in your relationship and who you run to for relationship advice. Most people you see as friends are not really your friends. Oftentimes they get jealous and bitter when you tell them about the happenings in your relationship. Most times your friends wish they have the kind of relationship you have that you are still complaining one or two things about to them. Human are naturally jealous and envious when they see people who have what they lack. And very few people can keep their jealous/envy under control, most people usually allow it to control them. This fact can make your friends give you advice that will make you do stuff that will ruin your relationship or even snatch away your partner from you. So before you take advice from a friend, you should always ask yourself will it help improve your relationship or make things worse.

 

Faithfulness is becoming a rare trait these days. If you want a faithful partner you must first choose to be a faithful person yourself. Then you must be determined never to settle for a cheating/unfaithful partner. Work on yourself to get to the state of mind when you tell a cheating partner to be faithful or lose you irrespective of how much you love and want to be with that person. Grow and develop yourself in every aspect of your life. When you work on yourself to become someone of great value it will become difficult for you to tolerate shit in a relationship. Make yourself that partner that brings value to a relationship apart from money(man) and your body(woman). Make yourself that partner that someone is afraid to lose because it will be difficult to replace him/her. Be a faithful and value adding partner.

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Love involves making sacrifices. However, it is totally unwise to make sacrifices blindly for someone just because you love him/her. Before you make sacrifices in a relationship, you need to ask yourself if the person you want to make sacrifice for will do the same for you if you are in his/her position. You deserve the kind of love you give out. Love is not just about giving, it also involves receiving. Don’t be the only one going out of your way to ensure the relationship continue to exist. If the feelings, effort and sacrifice are not mutual then it is not good for your mental and emotional well-being. Stay clear of any person that pressurise you to make sacrifices for them before starting a relationship with you or a partner that put continuous pressure on you to make sacrifices for them and start acting funny each time you are unable to do what they want. People like these are not with you because they want to be with you but for what they stand to gain from being with you.

 

 
There is no amount of sacrifices you can make for someone in the name of love that will make him/her to stay in your life forever if he/she doesn’t want to stay. Making sacrifices for someone that doesn’t love you will make him/her sees you as a means to achieve his/her ends. Such a person will eventually leave you after using you to achieve their ends. Be wise, only make sacrifices for people that truly loves you and will deeply appreciate your efforts for them. Make sacrifices for people you are assured of your position in their lifes. People who won’t hesitate to do more than you have done for them in the relationship when the need arises.

 

 

Communication is key to building a healthy and loving relationship. If you want to retain the fire of romance between you and your partner make effort to communicate on a daily basis when you are together and when you far apart. And you don’t need to have something special to discuss before you reach out to your partner. Create an enabling environment for easy flow of communication between you and your partner. Make your partner feel at ease to say out their mind without the fear of being judged or criticized. Regular communication will make the bond between you and your partner grow stronger and it will also help you and your partner to understand each other better day by day. If you want to be your partner’s best friend and confidant improve on the level of communication between you and him/her.