Don’t Rush Into Relationship Because Of Loneliness

Relationship is not a do or die affair.

Relationship should not be rush into just because you dread the feeling of being lonely.

Don’t stay in a relationship that bring continuous sorrow and pain to you.

Life is too short so enjoy it while it last.

Our relationship determines to a great extent if we are going to enjoy our life on earth or not.

Though no relationship is perfect but a healthy relationship will not derail your life or career and bring you continuous sorrow, pain and sleepless night.

A person that truly loves you will always be careful not to hurt your feelings and make concerted effort to make you a happier and better person than you can be without him/her.

Relationship is not all about money.

Relationship is not all about catching feelings.

You must learn to develop your emotional intelligence so as to prevent your emotions from controlling your life.

You must not allow your emotion to always determine the direction of your life and relationship.

Only give your heart to someone that will value and take good care of it.

Stop chasing people that you need to convince before they notice your worth and uniqueness.

Quit worrying about someone who does not have time for you.

You don’t need to beg for attention and affection from a person that loves and values you.

Learn to let go of any person or relationship that continuously cause you pain and hurt your feelings.

Love yourself enough to only settle for someone that makes you happy and better.

Decide to always be with someone that cherish and appreciates you.

Decide from today that you will either be in a healthy relationship or remain single.

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Hurting People Hurt People

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Love and human beings are inseparable. Love is just an abstract thing which totally depend on human to be felt or expressed.

Love is a beautiful thing but human can chose to be good or wicked.

Your experience of love is totally dependent on the persons you encountered in your quest to find love.

If you come in contact with a wholesome person you will have a wholesome love experience. On the other hand, if you come in contact with a hurting person, what will most definitely happen is they will hurt you too either intentionally or otherwise.

 

I observe that there is a lot of bitter, broken and hurting persons has a result of hurt and disappointment from past failed relationships resulting in a vicious cycle of unhealthy and abusive relationships in recent time.

If you are hurting or broken hearted rushing into another relationship is not the best choice for you.

Oftentimes hurting people rush into the arm of another romantic partner not out of love but loneliness.

If you are hurting or broken hearted healing process should be your number one priority not another love affair.

When you are hurting you wouldn’t be in the right frame of mind to give your best in a relationship.

You will be skeptical about love and everything about the new partner. You will have trust and commitment issues. You will be absent minded in the relationship. All of these and many more will directly or indirectly hurt your new partner.

It is important to ensure you seek healing for your hurting and broken heart before you consider sharing the heart with someone new.

Don’t let someone who have no idea about who hurt you suffer for the pain and hurt you experienced in your past relationship.

Your Partner Is Not Your Competitor

Most of us are used to being in competition with everyone around us because of our upbringing and schooling.

We see others as our competitors that we must outdo by all means possible.

The problem is most of still carry this mentality into our romantic relationship.

In a romantic relationship partners are suppose to complete, compliment, support and encourage each other.

You must never see your partner as your competitor.

The two of you have technically become one. You should root for each other.

Literally you should be each other’s number one cheerleader.

Don’t ever see the success of your partner as a threat to you.

It should be a thing of joy to you when you see your partner achieve greatness.

It shows you are a value adder and growth facilitator if someone you are with is making progress.

And if your partner achieve more success the better its for you because you will both enjoy the benefit.

So instead of turning yourself into a stumbling block on the path of your partner to greater, make yourself their stepping stone.

Take delibrate effort to bring out the best in your partner.

Encourage them to be their best possible. Let “The success of one is the success of all” be your mantra in your relationship.

Instead thwarting the growth of your partner, work harder to achieve more so that both of you can have more successes to celebrate together.

This quote concerns men the most

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See Beyond The Flaws

Most times we let ourselves get carried away by the idea of an ideal or perfect lover somewhere that we miss out on the opportunity of seeing the beauty and uniqueness of the person we already have in our life.

I must tell you that there is no perfect person anywhere.

And there is no perfect relationship anywhere.

Every individual have their flaws, secret and shortcomings just like you.

Every relationship has its good times and bad times. The only way to enjoy a loving and healthy relationship is to see beyond the flaws and imperfections of the person you are with.

Find their strengths and celebrate it.

Learn to accept people the way they are, flaws and all if their flaws wouldn’t cause you physical, mental and emotional harm.

The important thing is to find someone who is willing to be with you through thick and thin.

When you find such a person build a great relationship with them.

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Physical Attraction Is Not Enough

One of the numerous reasons relationships fail these days is because they are built on a wrong foundation.

Don’t fall in love just because of looks.

Look deeper.

See beyond the face value.

Beautiful heart is more precious than just a beautiful face.

When he/ she hurts or cheats on you repeatedly, you will not remember how attractive they look.

If you want a lasting and healthy relationship focus on finding someone with a beautiful heart than a beautiful face or body.

A person with a beautiful heart will make your world more beautiful.

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Determination Is Not Desperation

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Determination is not desperation.

You must learn to differentiate between being determined to make a relationship work and being desperate to hold on to someone who is no longer emotional available to you or a relationship that is obviously heading nowhere.

It is important to know that not everyone you lose is a loss.

Any relationship you are in that doesn’t give you happiness and peace of mind doesn’t worth your time and effort.

One of the things we need to learn in life is to know when to let go and how to let go.

Stop holding on to something that is causing you nothing but pain and sadness.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to move on when it is over.

It is pointless crying over or trying to garner a spilled milk.

Never Beg For Attention

Any relationship where you have to beg for attention and love is not a healthy one.

Respect and love yourself enough to walk away from such.

If he or she is not showing you the attention and affection you need.

Talk to him/ her about it, don’t just go with the flow.

If things doesn’t improve after the discussion make the right decision.

You should know that there are many people out there waiting for an opportunity to shower you with love, care and attention.

Stop blocking your chance of experiencing true love and happiness by staying in a relationship where you have to beg for attention and affection.

Love yourself enough to do the needful.

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