Category: Advice

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Stop making up excuses in your head for people, when they treat you badly or as an option just because you have become emotionally attached to them. People put in effort if they really want something to work. They make time for what they consider really important. They care and give attention to whomever they really love. Don’t be deceived by words. Pay attention to actions. Words can be deceiving but action don’t. Actions speak louder than words. People’s action is the true indicator of their true intentions.

Your partner determines how are you treated by his/her family. A mature person will take full responsibility to ensure there is a smooth relationship between his/her partner and family. Date someone who is mature enough to ensure his/her family treats you with respect. If you are being treated badly with disrespect by your in-laws it is often because of what your partner has said about you to them or because your partner fails to project you well or draw a line on what treatment he/she will tolerate/accept when it comes to you.

Don’t make a mistake of tolerating physical/emotional/mental abuse in a relationship. People who were murdered by their partner never saw it coming but must have noticed signs of excessive aggression in the partner at one point or the other. Don’t let your emotions blindfold you to your partner’s dangerous behaviour that poses a threat to your well-being or life. Don’t let an abusive relationship send you to an early grave. Always choose loneliness above an abusive partner/relationship. If it’s not healthy and loving it’s not worth it.

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A mature person understand fully well that physical attraction is not a strong foundation upon which the bricks of a serious relationship can be laid hence it shouldn’t be the main reason to start a relationship. If you desire a loving, healthy and long term relationship you must discipline yourself to look beyond the obvious. Focus more on more important and lasting qualities like character, behaviour, mindset, ambition, goals among others rather than transient thing like physical features- attractive face, sexy body and so on. Physical attraction is definitely important but it will not determine how he/she will treat you in the relationship but their character will.

 
Every conflict in a relationship present an opportunity to reveal the true identity/nature of your partner. Anger atimes gives people the boldness to say what they have been hiding in the deepest part of their soul.

 
Never should you lose your voice in a relationship. A relationship where you can’t give voice to your emotions, fear, concerns and discomfort is not healthy. A relationship should be where you express yourself without the fear of being judged. Encourage your partner to express himself/herself and do the same. It is therapeutic.

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Happiness comes from within. If you are not happy with who you are, you will never be happy with what you have. It is not your partner’s duty to make you happy. Happiness is a personal decision. You can either choose to be happy or miserable. Your partner can only contribute to your happiness/misery. Choose to be happy and only settle for a partner that makes concerted effort to make you happier than you can ever be on your own. If you not happy find out why and not who to blame.

 

 

Relationship/marriage is not about finding someone that will complete you in order to get respect and approval from people/society. It is about finding someone who loves, care, values and respect you for who you are and wholeheartedly wants to be with you and not someone else.

 

 

Relationship is not a battlefield for superiority of one gender over another. Don’t be with someone who want to lord it over your life just because he is a male. Be with someone who truly loves you and place your happiness as a priority. Someone who is willing to do anything to make you happy, comfortable and feel appreciated as a woman: And don’t be with someone who is not willing to respect your leadership. Someone who continuously challenged your authority for no good reason other than to emasculate you as a man.

Happy New Year Friends.

Welcome to year 2019.

I will be adding a new category title “No Romance Without Finance” to my blog this year. This category will contain step by step instructions on how to produce a particular product which you can use to start a small/medium business which will generate income for you. Watch out

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Most of the time it’s not the person you miss, it’s the feelings and moments you had when you were with them. Don’t let a sweet moment and wonderful feelings you had in time pass tie you down to a person or relationship that has turned unhealthy, toxic or abusive when the person gets comfortable enough with you to start showing their true color.

 

 

Never change who you are(in a bad way) for someone’s approval/acceptance. Anyone that truly love you will accept and appreciate who you are and will never force you to do what you don’t want to do or what can have a negative repercussions on your future. Be proud of who you are in a positive way and only choose to be with people who see value in you and appreciate you for who you are.

 

 

You can’t have a perfect relationship because you are not perfect and nobody is. However, you can have a great relationship(a healthy and loving relationship). A great relationship begins when partners learn to appreciate their similarities(what they have in common) and respect their differences(what makes them unique as individuals).

 

Merry Christmas……

You Deserve The Kind Of Love You Give Out

Love is not worthy of its name if it’s unrequited. A healthy relationship is a relationship built on love.

Love is a mutual thing never a one sided thing. Love is not about just giving, it also involves receiving.

Believe me you deserve the kind of love and care you give out to others.

Relationship is something to be enjoy not endure and it can only be enjoy if the feelings are mutual and the effort is mutually invested.

Here are the kind of partners you should be with if you want to enjoy a healthy and loving relationship:

 
1. You deserve someone that feels lucky to have you.

 
2. You deserve someone that respect and appreciate every little thing you do for them.

 
3. You deserve someone that will love and care about you, you don’t have to be the only one doing the loving and caring.

 
4. You deserve someone who is willing to put in the effort to make what you share last forever.

 
5. You deserve someone who will stay committed, faithful and loyal to you.

 
6. You deserve someone that respect you and make it clear to his friends and family that they must do same.

 
7. You deserve someone who will never get tired of you.

 
8. You deserve someone who believe in you and your dreams, aspiration and ambition.

 
9. You deserve someone who is committed to supporting you to achieve your dreams and goals.

 
10. You deserve someone who support and encourage you to be a better person in all ramification.

Relationship is best/sweet when the love, care, sacrifice, commitment, faithfulness, attention and efforts in general is coming from both end… Wish you happiness and love in your relationship pursuit.

It’s Better To Be Single And Lonely

Two are better than one because they can keep each other’s company, make each other happy, care for each other, encourage and support each other.

This is the essence of a relationship.

Relationship should add value to our lives not detract it.

Relationship should make our lives easier not complicated.

Relationship should help us to become happier and better than we can be on our own not the other way round.

Relationship should help us stay focus on what is important and achieve our dreams and ambitions not distract us and hold us back.

Life has its ups and downs already relationship should not add to it. Many stuff in life for instance work causes stress so relationship should not compound it.

Relationship is not a do or die affair. You don’t have to be in a relationship just because you are afraid or tired of being single and lonely.

Don’t stay in a relationship that makes your life miserable and deprived you of your peace of mind and sound night sleep.

It’s is better to be alone than to be in a relationship with a partner who is doing any of the following:

 
1) A partner that takes you and your efforts for granted.

 
2) A partner that lies to you about everything and anything, making you look like a fool in the presence of others.

 
3) A partner that makes you look like a fool for caring too much.

 
4) A partner who put you in doubt about where you actually belong in their life. Someone who is not committed to you.

 
5) A partner who takes undue advantage of you financially or in any way just because they know you love them so much and you are willing to do anything for them.

 
6) A partner who feels like he or she is doing you a favor by being with you.

 
7) A partner who doesn’t respect, support or appreciate you.

 
8) A partner that abuses you physically, emotionally, mentally or sexually.

 
9) A partner who sees and treats you as a competitor and feels threatened by your success and progress in life and career especially when you are getting ahead of them.

 
10) A partner who you have to beg for his/her attention and affection.

 
Relationship should be something you start because you have found the right person who is willing to put in the same effort you will put to ensure things work out.

Relationship should only start when you have find that one person that truly loves and cares about you just the same you do about them and also need you in his/her life to complete and compliment it like you also need them.

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Competition is not ideal in a healthy relationship. It breeds a hostile atmosphere. Relationship is about togetherness not battle of the sexes. Relationship is not about fighting for which gender is superior. Healthy relationship involves two partners supporting and understanding each other. The right mindset in a relationship should be to see the failure of one as the failure of all: And same for success. Partners should encourage each other to break boundaries not compete with each other for who will be more successful and richer. See your partner as your team mate not as your competitor. When you support each other, you will grow, succeed and stay together.

 

Be careful of who you tell everything that happens in your relationship and who you run to for relationship advice. Most people you see as friends are not really your friends. Oftentimes they get jealous and bitter when you tell them about the happenings in your relationship. Most times your friends wish they have the kind of relationship you have that you are still complaining one or two things about to them. Human are naturally jealous and envious when they see people who have what they lack. And very few people can keep their jealous/envy under control, most people usually allow it to control them. This fact can make your friends give you advice that will make you do stuff that will ruin your relationship or even snatch away your partner from you. So before you take advice from a friend, you should always ask yourself will it help improve your relationship or make things worse.

 

Faithfulness is becoming a rare trait these days. If you want a faithful partner you must first choose to be a faithful person yourself. Then you must be determined never to settle for a cheating/unfaithful partner. Work on yourself to get to the state of mind when you tell a cheating partner to be faithful or lose you irrespective of how much you love and want to be with that person. Grow and develop yourself in every aspect of your life. When you work on yourself to become someone of great value it will become difficult for you to tolerate shit in a relationship. Make yourself that partner that brings value to a relationship apart from money(man) and your body(woman). Make yourself that partner that someone is afraid to lose because it will be difficult to replace him/her. Be a faithful and value adding partner.