The Right Mindset Towards Misunderstanding In A Relationship

Misunderstanding is a normal occurence between partners due to differences in personality, temperament, upbringing, exposure and many other factors.

Misunderstanding come and go, and it should never affect your loyalty to your partner.

Having a misunderstanding with your partner is not a genuine excuse to start giving undue attention to other men or women.

If you value your relationship, whenever there is a misunderstanding your thinking should be focus on resolving the issue and at the same time availing it to understand your partner better.

Let your loyalty to your partner be rigid not flexible.

Be loyal to your partner till the relationship is over.

Loyalty brings untold respect and admiration. It is immaturity to flirt with the opposite sex in the presence of your partner.

Stop trying to make your partner feel jealous by flirting with the opposite sex especially when there is a misunderstanding between the two of you.

When you do that you are actually taking undue advantage of your partner’s emotion just because you know he/she loves you dearly.

If care is not taken that might destroy the relationship.

Whenever there is an issue in your relationship you must learn to face it heads on.

This is the only way to find a lasting solution to any problem that may arise in your relationship.

Doing otherwise is usually counter-productive.

Ignoring a problem don’t make it go away, it only make it get worse/bigger.

It is also immaturity to keep malice with your partner no matter the situation.

Don’t keep whatever is hurting you in your relationship to yourself. Speak out.

Don’t be bullied or threaten or blackmail to silence/submission in your relationship.

If you and your partner can’t learn to manage your issues and misunderstanding peacefully and live with each other happily in spite of them, then it is pointless to continue to remain in such a relationship.
When there is an issue in your relationship, find a way to resolve it amicably and continue loving each other.

If the problem is beyond remedy, it is better to go your separate way than to continue to remain together but embitter towards each other. This is because bitterness can make people do unreasonable things to the person they claimed to love.

Naturally love forgives and forgets wrongdoing.

However, if the offence is too much for your heart to forgive and mind to forget it is better to walk out of the relationship.

It is unlawful and immaturity to think of hurting or harming your partner irrespective of what they did wrong.

I have heard too many stories of man/woman murdering their partner.

The question i keep asking myself is “for what reason?”.

Why would you want to put yourself in a situation where you might end up spending the rest of your life in jail over something that is totally preventable.

Relationship is not a do or die affair.

If it is not making you happier and adding value to your life then it is not worth losing your sleep and peace of mind over.

If it is not working, it is okay to let it go.

Though it is advisable to give it your best shots before calling it quit.

It is important to know when to keep trying and when to walk away in a relationship.

Adopt the right mindset towards misunderstanding in a relationship.

Don’t ignore any issue bothering your mind.

If you don’t tackle it, it wouldn’t go away by itself. It will continue to hunt and hurt you until you face it and say enough is enough.

Learn to forgive your partner wholeheartedly.

Don’t keep record of your partner’s wrongdoing.

Don’t keep malice with your partner.

Don’t go to bed with anger and bitterness in your heart against your partner.

When you feel offended let your partner know by talking about it, don’t assume he/she should know.

Don’t give up on your relationship over little quarrel or misunderstanding.
Finally, if it is not working, you are free to walk out of it. Remember, it is a free world.

Never get violent against your partner.

You can never predict what a single violent act can result to in an agitated situation.

A single violent act can put you behind bars for the rest of your life.

It is always better to walk away.

Lets say NO to domestic violence in marriages.

Say NO to unhealthy or toxic relationship as a single.

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Faithfulness Is Romantic, Sweet And Safe

Faithfulness to one partner is not boring contrary to popular opinion among cheats or unfaithful partners.

A scholar once said we are pluralistic in nature, hence the reason most people find it difficult to remain faithful to one partner.

This might not be completely true but to a certain degree it is the truth for some people because they have never been completely faithful to a single partner since they have venture into the world of relationship.

I will be honest with you, we are humans, imperfect being. We goof often.

We are constantly striving to maintain a balance between two forces (Good and bad forces) pulling us towards theirselves.

Hence, the numerous temptation we face as human.

However, facing numerous temptation is not a justification to do what is not right.

It is important to stress that as a human we are also equiped with the capacity and strong-will to chose to do the right thing inspite of mounting temptation.

A matured person understands that to every action there is equal and opposite reaction.

In other words, every single action carries a consequence.

A matured person often consider the consequence of his/her action before making decision to either take it or not.

Relationship and marriages are meant for matured people.

My advice for any person who is searching for a partner for serious relationship or marriage is that you should make maturity as your number one criterion.

It is important state that age is not synonymous with maturity.

A matured person understands that once you are in a relationship your action will affect your partner either positively or negatively.

This knowledge should influence our decision in relationship.

Relationship has to do with put your partner’s feeling into consideration before doing anything that will directly or indirectly affect him/her.

A matured man will stay faithful to a single woman.

A real man understands that his manliness is not measure by the number of women he keeps as his sexual partners.

A matured woman will also stay faithful to one man.

A real woman doesn’t share her body with numerous men.

Her sense of importance, attractiveness and class are not dependent on the number of men she keeps or sleep with.

Relationship is sweet when there is love.

Love is sweet and waxes stronger day by day when there is trust.

Guess what, honesty and faithfulness beget and retain trust. If you want to enjoy your life and relationship find someone you love and be faithful to him/her.

Then begin to build a great life and relationship together as a team.

Faithfulness is number one quality most people desire in a partner.

Don’t demand what you can’t give. If you want a faithful partner, you must be determine to be one yourself.

Faithfulness is never boring.

Faithfulness is sweet, romantic and possible though it require self control and discipline.

Faithfulness helps protect you from contacting sexually transmitted diseases.

Lastly, sex get better and sweeter with the same partner with time not boring.

So let go of the myth that claim you will get bored, tired or satiated when you keep having sex with the same person for a long period.

It’s a lie.

Faithfulness to one partner in a relationship and marriage is not boring and impossible.

It is possible with determination and self control.

It is sweet and romantic in the sense that it helps you to concentrate your attention and affection on your partner alone which will help you know each other better and be able to build stronger bond necessary to keep aflame the fire of love and romance in the relationship.

It also enhance peace of mind.

Staying faithful to your partner is one of the best decision you will ever make in life. Thank you

Love Doctor’s Advice 011

Effort is an indication of interest. Any person that is genuinely interested in being a part of your life will put in the needed effort to be part of it. Anyone that truly care about you will never do anything that will hurt your feelings. Anyone that truly loves you will never wait for you to ask for their attention and affection before it’s given to you.

 
One important attribute of a healthy relationship is a peace of mind. Never waste your time in a relationship that consistently deprieved you a peaceful night sleep. Don’t continuously sacrifice your peace of mind just because you thought it will be very difficult to live without a partner that don’t care about your happiness or feelings. It is better to be alone and happy than to be lonely, unhappy and depressed in a relationship.

 
True love is when someone knows a lot about your past and still find you amazing. A person that truly loves you will never use your past mistakes against you.

 
Quit spending time with people who you have to continuously convince to see your worth. Start spending time with people who see your worth even at your worst. Be attracted to people that will convince you on your worst day that you are still worth their world.

 
People cheat because they chose to cheat. Cheating is never a mistake but a choice. Most time when people cheat it has nothing to do with their partner but speaks volume of who they are and what they chose to do.

Love Doctor’s Advice 010

Relationship are suppose to make us happier and better. If it is not making you happier and challenging you to be a better version of yourself than you could be on your own then it’s not worth your effort and time. Never settle for a relationship that deprieves you of your happiness and peaceful night rest or hinders you from going after your dreams.

 

 

Living your life base on the ideology that say ” What will be, will be” is like living your life base on chances, that is not good enough. Life is best live base on choices. Be decisive about the kind of relationship you want and the qualities you look for in a partner. Don’t just let life happen to you. Don’t settle for just anything that comes your way. Never put yourself in a situation where you have to settle for just any kind of relationship especially abusive or unhealthy ones.

 

 

There is nothing you can do to keep anyone in your life. Someone that want to stay in your life will stay no matter what you do: Someone that does not want to stay in your life, would not stay no matter what you do. Stop stressing yourself over how to keep someone that don’t want to be kept. Put in your best effort to make your work and leave the rest.

 

 

If you agree to cheat with him on his woman, you should know that he will cheat on you with other women if he eventually become your man. The way a relationship start often determines it’s flow and eventual end. If he left his woman because of you for no good reason, chances are he will later leave you because of another woman for no good reason. If it’s complicated never get yourself involve.

 

 

Four important questions you should always ask yourself with regards to your relationship are: (i) Am i happy being with him/her? (ii) Do i experience inner peace in this relationship? (iii) Does his/her actions shows that he/she care about my feelings and happiness? (iv) Does he/she encourage me to improve on myself and become a better person ?. Your answers will determines if the relationship is worth your time and effort.

Is been a while i posted. From henceforth there will regular and fresh post every week. Thank you.

Love Doctor’s Advice 009

Never use your lover’s past mistakes to judge them. Don’t blackmail your partner emotionally by criticising them based on their mistakes in past relationship. The past can not be undo. Let the past be in the past. It is only best used to understand your partner and know what make them tick. Use your partner’s past to know how best to love them.

 
Any person that knows your worth and really want you in their life will never put you in a position to fight for a spot in their life. Respect yourself enough to only be where you are needed. When you are needed, you will be respected, celebrated and appreciated. Don’t fight or force your way into any person’s life.

 
No relationship in the past is a waste of time. It either gave you joy or taught you a lesson. Don’t let the baggages from your past relationship destroy your present or future relationship. Pick the good lessons and unlearn the bad habits you pick up from your past toxic relationship. Use every past mistakes and failure to get wiser and better not bitter. Don’t treat the person in your life presently badly just because you have been treated badly in your past relationships. Don’t let your past destroy your present or future.

 
The fastest way to get yourself confused about who is best for you in a relationship is to get yourself involved with more than one partner at a time. Multiple-dating often make people end up with the wrong person when its time to settle down.

 
Be careful of the belief that believes giving your lovers a test is the best way to determine the person that loves you most and best suited for you. It is said that examination is not the best way to evaluate the ability of students to determine the best student. In a similar vein, the fact that a person passed your test doesn’t guarentee he or she is the best choice for you.

 

Happy Easter Monday To You All.

Love Doctor’s Advice 008

Communication is the lifeline of a loving and healthy relationship. Make effort to communicate with your partner on a daily basis. Don’t assume your partner understand things. Assumptions is the cause of most misunderstanding and conflicts. Communicate your thoughts, fears, concerns and mood clearly. Make sure you are understood. When you make your partner understand what you are passing through, it will be easy for them to provide support. Regular communication makes partner not just lovers but also best friends.

 
There is nothing perfect in this imperfect world. No one is perfect including you. So stop expecting your partner to be perfect. Stop setting unrealistic expectations and standards for your partner. Accept your partner the way they are. If there is need for improvement, communicate it with love. Nothing transforms people faster than love. Complaining and nagging hardly works.

 
Don’t avoid arguments and misunderstanding by all cost in your relationship. Most relationships without little arguments and fights here and there, are usually full of secrets and partners who don’t really care. Give room for quarrels and misunderstanding, it enables you to know each other better. Though they must be handle maturely and you must put the relationship first ahead of individual’s ego.

 
Misunderstanding and conflicts are normal occurrence when two people from different backgrounds, exposure and temperament come together as one in a relationship. Expect and understand this so you don’t think you two have fall out of love when it starts happening. Create a harmless way to resolve the misunderstanding and conflicts that will inevitably happen in your relationship.You must resolved never to attack each other physically or use deregatory language against each other during quarrels. Such resolution helps a great deal. When you are determined to resolve issues and not dissolve your relationship. It will strengthen the bond between you and your partner.

 
Respect is very important in a relationship if you want it to be a healthy, loving and lasting one. You must respect your partner’s opinion, space and person- who they are. Respect should never be a one sided affair. It should not be genderly based. Respect should be reciprocated. Give your partner respect and expect it in return.

Love Doctor’s Advice 007

Falling in love and starting a relationship is quite easy. The real work is putting in the effort, faithfulness, sacrifice and time to rekindle the fire of romance from time to time and cultivating the mature, trusting love that is the hallmark of a healthy and lasting relationship.

 
Being decisive about a relationship from the beginning is very important. It helps save your time and it have a lasting effect on the quality of the romance in the relationship. Be clear of what you want before entering into a new relationship and make sure you made it clear to your new partner.

 
Understanding what makes your partner feel loved is the key to understanding him/ her. It will also help you to navigate through conflict and keep romance between the two of you in the relationship.

 
Every conflict between you and your partner presents an opportunity to improve your relationship if both of you are committed to making things work. Conflicts make you understand each other better and appreciate your differences and uniqueness, if only you will deal with it out of love. When conflict arises, as they will, don’t forget that it is your lover you are dealing with not your enemy. With this mindset no conflict will tear you and your partner apart.

 
You are beautiful, special, unique and amazing. Believe this and never settle for someone who treats you like a scumbag. Treat your partner well and don’t accept anything less in return.