Love Doctor’s Advice 011

Effort is an indication of interest. Any person that is genuinely interested in being a part of your life will put in the needed effort to be part of it. Anyone that truly care about you will never do anything that will hurt your feelings. Anyone that truly loves you will never wait for you to ask for their attention and affection before it’s given to you.

 
One important attribute of a healthy relationship is a peace of mind. Never waste your time in a relationship that consistently deprieved you a peaceful night sleep. Don’t continuously sacrifice your peace of mind just because you thought it will be very difficult to live without a partner that don’t care about your happiness or feelings. It is better to be alone and happy than to be lonely, unhappy and depressed in a relationship.

 
True love is when someone knows a lot about your past and still find you amazing. A person that truly loves you will never use your past mistakes against you.

 
Quit spending time with people who you have to continuously convince to see your worth. Start spending time with people who see your worth even at your worst. Be attracted to people that will convince you on your worst day that you are still worth their world.

 
People cheat because they chose to cheat. Cheating is never a mistake but a choice. Most time when people cheat it has nothing to do with their partner but speaks volume of who they are and what they chose to do.

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Love Doctor’s Advice 010

Relationship are suppose to make us happier and better. If it is not making you happier and challenging you to be a better version of yourself than you could be on your own then it’s not worth your effort and time. Never settle for a relationship that deprieves you of your happiness and peaceful night rest or hinders you from going after your dreams.

 

 

Living your life base on the ideology that say ” What will be, will be” is like living your life base on chances, that is not good enough. Life is best live base on choices. Be decisive about the kind of relationship you want and the qualities you look for in a partner. Don’t just let life happen to you. Don’t settle for just anything that comes your way. Never put yourself in a situation where you have to settle for just any kind of relationship especially abusive or unhealthy ones.

 

 

There is nothing you can do to keep anyone in your life. Someone that want to stay in your life will stay no matter what you do: Someone that does not want to stay in your life, would not stay no matter what you do. Stop stressing yourself over how to keep someone that don’t want to be kept. Put in your best effort to make your work and leave the rest.

 

 

If you agree to cheat with him on his woman, you should know that he will cheat on you with other women if he eventually become your man. The way a relationship start often determines it’s flow and eventual end. If he left his woman because of you for no good reason, chances are he will later leave you because of another woman for no good reason. If it’s complicated never get yourself involve.

 

 

Four important questions you should always ask yourself with regards to your relationship are: (i) Am i happy being with him/her? (ii) Do i experience inner peace in this relationship? (iii) Does his/her actions shows that he/she care about my feelings and happiness? (iv) Does he/she encourage me to improve on myself and become a better person ?. Your answers will determines if the relationship is worth your time and effort.

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Love Doctor’s Advice 009

Never use your lover’s past mistakes to judge them. Don’t blackmail your partner emotionally by criticising them based on their mistakes in past relationship. The past can not be undo. Let the past be in the past. It is only best used to understand your partner and know what make them tick. Use your partner’s past to know how best to love them.

 
Any person that knows your worth and really want you in their life will never put you in a position to fight for a spot in their life. Respect yourself enough to only be where you are needed. When you are needed, you will be respected, celebrated and appreciated. Don’t fight or force your way into any person’s life.

 
No relationship in the past is a waste of time. It either gave you joy or taught you a lesson. Don’t let the baggages from your past relationship destroy your present or future relationship. Pick the good lessons and unlearn the bad habits you pick up from your past toxic relationship. Use every past mistakes and failure to get wiser and better not bitter. Don’t treat the person in your life presently badly just because you have been treated badly in your past relationships. Don’t let your past destroy your present or future.

 
The fastest way to get yourself confused about who is best for you in a relationship is to get yourself involved with more than one partner at a time. Multiple-dating often make people end up with the wrong person when its time to settle down.

 
Be careful of the belief that believes giving your lovers a test is the best way to determine the person that loves you most and best suited for you. It is said that examination is not the best way to evaluate the ability of students to determine the best student. In a similar vein, the fact that a person passed your test doesn’t guarentee he or she is the best choice for you.

 

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Love Doctor’s Advice 008

Communication is the lifeline of a loving and healthy relationship. Make effort to communicate with your partner on a daily basis. Don’t assume your partner understand things. Assumptions is the cause of most misunderstanding and conflicts. Communicate your thoughts, fears, concerns and mood clearly. Make sure you are understood. When you make your partner understand what you are passing through, it will be easy for them to provide support. Regular communication makes partner not just lovers but also best friends.

 
There is nothing perfect in this imperfect world. No one is perfect including you. So stop expecting your partner to be perfect. Stop setting unrealistic expectations and standards for your partner. Accept your partner the way they are. If there is need for improvement, communicate it with love. Nothing transforms people faster than love. Complaining and nagging hardly works.

 
Don’t avoid arguments and misunderstanding by all cost in your relationship. Most relationships without little arguments and fights here and there, are usually full of secrets and partners who don’t really care. Give room for quarrels and misunderstanding, it enables you to know each other better. Though they must be handle maturely and you must put the relationship first ahead of individual’s ego.

 
Misunderstanding and conflicts are normal occurrence when two people from different backgrounds, exposure and temperament come together as one in a relationship. Expect and understand this so you don’t think you two have fall out of love when it starts happening. Create a harmless way to resolve the misunderstanding and conflicts that will inevitably happen in your relationship.You must resolved never to attack each other physically or use deregatory language against each other during quarrels. Such resolution helps a great deal. When you are determined to resolve issues and not dissolve your relationship. It will strengthen the bond between you and your partner.

 
Respect is very important in a relationship if you want it to be a healthy, loving and lasting one. You must respect your partner’s opinion, space and person- who they are. Respect should never be a one sided affair. It should not be genderly based. Respect should be reciprocated. Give your partner respect and expect it in return.

Love Doctor’s Advice 007

Falling in love and starting a relationship is quite easy. The real work is putting in the effort, faithfulness, sacrifice and time to rekindle the fire of romance from time to time and cultivating the mature, trusting love that is the hallmark of a healthy and lasting relationship.

 
Being decisive about a relationship from the beginning is very important. It helps save your time and it have a lasting effect on the quality of the romance in the relationship. Be clear of what you want before entering into a new relationship and make sure you made it clear to your new partner.

 
Understanding what makes your partner feel loved is the key to understanding him/ her. It will also help you to navigate through conflict and keep romance between the two of you in the relationship.

 
Every conflict between you and your partner presents an opportunity to improve your relationship if both of you are committed to making things work. Conflicts make you understand each other better and appreciate your differences and uniqueness, if only you will deal with it out of love. When conflict arises, as they will, don’t forget that it is your lover you are dealing with not your enemy. With this mindset no conflict will tear you and your partner apart.

 
You are beautiful, special, unique and amazing. Believe this and never settle for someone who treats you like a scumbag. Treat your partner well and don’t accept anything less in return.

Love Doctor’s Advice 006

Don’t make the mistake of seeking people’s permission or approval in your pursuit of your passion and vision. They will deliberately say things to discourage you and even back it up with their self-made genuine reasons. Very few people encourage others to go after their dreams. Be your own main source of inspiration and motivation.

 

 

Be careful of who you want to marry. Some people are not comfortable seeing their partner succeeding and flourishing than them. Pay attention to your partners behaviour while dating so you don’t end up marrying someone that will frustrate your life, dreams and ambition. Don’t continue to stay with someone that is threaten by your success.

 

 

Make sure you first figured out what your life essence is, before you begin to search for a life partner. Knowing what your life is all about will help you to figure out exactly the kind of person you need in your life. Every life has a purpose on earth, find yours. Your partner should be your soulmate who will help you to realise your innermost aspiration. You should have a life outside of the relationship. This makes the relationship more exciting and lively. It will help you to have something to discuss about every time hence there wouldn’t be boredom or stalemate in the communication between the two of you in the relationship.

 

 

It is a good thing to fight for love but make sure you are not the only one fighting for the relationship. It should be two sided. Only fight for the love of the person that wouldn’t think twice about fighting for your love too. Don’t allow anyone to manipulate you. Fighting for love doesn’t mean you fight for your lover’s love and attention. Love and attention should be given freely in a relationship not fought for. It means fighting against anything that want to destroy the relationship and it is a fight for the two of you in the relationship.

 

 

When someone hurt you in a relationship by jilting you. The best thing you can do for yourself is to move on with your life. Never to wallow in self pity. And make yourself happy no matter what. Don’t give anyone power over your life to control your happiness after hurting your feelings and breaking your heart. Pick yourself up. Make the person wonder what is going on with you.

Love Doctor’s Advice 005

You don’t have to change for someone to love you. A person who is genuinely interested in you will love you exactly the way you are. Though it is good to change for the good. If you want to change, do so because you desire to be a better person not to get someone’s love or attention. Someone who can’t love and accept you the way you are now wouldn’t still value you even if you changed everything about you to please such a person.

Every relationship has its problem, fights and misunderstanding but what makes a relationship beautiful is the desire and determination to stick together and make things work no matter what.

Your happiness should not be determined by others. If you depend on others to be happy, your happiness will never be stable and long lasting. When you give people the power to determine your happiness, few can resist the temptation to use it to manipulate you. Take deliberate effort to make yourself happy. And spend time with the people that make you happy.

You can tell when someone takes you serious in a relationship if you care enough to pay attention. When you find someone who takes you serious, don’t spoil things by creating a back up plan (keeping someone else incase the relationship failed). When you do, you will eventually need it. Your back up plan will be the cause of the relationship failure.

Stop making negative assumption about the opposite sex in general. Don’t judge all the opposite sex because of the bad experience you had with few in time past. Not all men cheat. Not all women are unrepentant liar or materialistic. Judging the new people you are meeting based on the few you had met in time past might make you lose the chance of meeting good people. Don’t allow your past to change your outlook on life and people in a negative way. Negative mentality repeal positive and good people. It may also create a negative reality leading to vicious cycle of bad or unhealthy relationships.