Love Doctor’s Advice 007

Falling in love and starting a relationship is quite easy. The real work is putting in the effort, faithfulness, sacrifice and time to rekindle the fire of romance from time to time and cultivating the mature, trusting love that is the hallmark of a healthy and lasting relationship.

 
Being decisive about a relationship from the beginning is very important. It helps save your time and it have a lasting effect on the quality of the romance in the relationship. Be clear of what you want before entering into a new relationship and make sure you made it clear to your new partner.

 
Understanding what makes your partner feel loved is the key to understanding him/ her. It will also help you to navigate through conflict and keep romance between the two of you in the relationship.

 
Every conflict between you and your partner presents an opportunity to improve your relationship if both of you are committed to making things work. Conflicts make you understand each other better and appreciate your differences and uniqueness, if only you will deal with it out of love. When conflict arises, as they will, don’t forget that it is your lover you are dealing with not your enemy. With this mindset no conflict will tear you and your partner apart.

 
You are beautiful, special, unique and amazing. Believe this and never settle for someone who treats you like a scumbag. Treat your partner well and don’t accept anything less in return.

Never Beg For Attention

Any relationship where you have to beg for attention and love is not a healthy one.

Respect and love yourself enough to walk away from such.

If he or she is not showing you the attention and affection you need.

Talk to him/ her about it, don’t just go with the flow.

If things doesn’t improve after the discussion make the right decision.

You should know that there are many people out there waiting for an opportunity to shower you with love, care and attention.

Stop blocking your chance of experiencing true love and happiness by staying in a relationship where you have to beg for attention and affection.

Love yourself enough to do the needful.

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Love Doctor’s Advice 006

Don’t make the mistake of seeking people’s permission or approval in your pursuit of your passion and vision. They will deliberately say things to discourage you and even back it up with their self-made genuine reasons. Very few people encourage others to go after their dreams. Be your own main source of inspiration and motivation.

 

 

Be careful of who you want to marry. Some people are not comfortable seeing their partner succeeding and flourishing than them. Pay attention to your partners behaviour while dating so you don’t end up marrying someone that will frustrate your life, dreams and ambition. Don’t continue to stay with someone that is threaten by your success.

 

 

Make sure you first figured out what your life essence is, before you begin to search for a life partner. Knowing what your life is all about will help you to figure out exactly the kind of person you need in your life. Every life has a purpose on earth, find yours. Your partner should be your soulmate who will help you to realise your innermost aspiration. You should have a life outside of the relationship. This makes the relationship more exciting and lively. It will help you to have something to discuss about every time hence there wouldn’t be boredom or stalemate in the communication between the two of you in the relationship.

 

 

It is a good thing to fight for love but make sure you are not the only one fighting for the relationship. It should be two sided. Only fight for the love of the person that wouldn’t think twice about fighting for your love too. Don’t allow anyone to manipulate you. Fighting for love doesn’t mean you fight for your lover’s love and attention. Love and attention should be given freely in a relationship not fought for. It means fighting against anything that want to destroy the relationship and it is a fight for the two of you in the relationship.

 

 

When someone hurt you in a relationship by jilting you. The best thing you can do for yourself is to move on with your life. Never to wallow in self pity. And make yourself happy no matter what. Don’t give anyone power over your life to control your happiness after hurting your feelings and breaking your heart. Pick yourself up. Make the person wonder what is going on with you.

Love Doctor’s Advice 005

You don’t have to change for someone to love you. A person who is genuinely interested in you will love you exactly the way you are. Though it is good to change for the good. If you want to change, do so because you desire to be a better person not to get someone’s love or attention. Someone who can’t love and accept you the way you are now wouldn’t still value you even if you changed everything about you to please such a person.

Every relationship has its problem, fights and misunderstanding but what makes a relationship beautiful is the desire and determination to stick together and make things work no matter what.

Your happiness should not be determined by others. If you depend on others to be happy, your happiness will never be stable and long lasting. When you give people the power to determine your happiness, few can resist the temptation to use it to manipulate you. Take deliberate effort to make yourself happy. And spend time with the people that make you happy.

You can tell when someone takes you serious in a relationship if you care enough to pay attention. When you find someone who takes you serious, don’t spoil things by creating a back up plan (keeping someone else incase the relationship failed). When you do, you will eventually need it. Your back up plan will be the cause of the relationship failure.

Stop making negative assumption about the opposite sex in general. Don’t judge all the opposite sex because of the bad experience you had with few in time past. Not all men cheat. Not all women are unrepentant liar or materialistic. Judging the new people you are meeting based on the few you had met in time past might make you lose the chance of meeting good people. Don’t allow your past to change your outlook on life and people in a negative way. Negative mentality repeal positive and good people. It may also create a negative reality leading to vicious cycle of bad or unhealthy relationships.

Perfectly Imperfect

You are perfectly imperfect just for me.

There is nothing more I could have asked for.

You are adorable, special and amazing.

Everything about you seems so unique and beautiful.

You are the perfect definition of beauty.

You are an angel sent from above to make my life a paradise on earth.

You don’t have the perfect body and the most beautiful face yet I wouldn’t trade you for those that have it.

Your beauty is ethereal because it transcend your facial and physical appearance.

You are so caring and loving.

I am very blessed to have you as my love, queen and angel.

You make my world come alive with your smile and love.

Each time you are with me I feel unspeakable and unfathomable joy.

You are my sunshine: because your presence has brighten up my existence.

You are everything I have ever wanted and dream of.

I Want all of you, your flaws, mistakes, smiles, imperfections, everything.

Believe me when I tell you that you are perfectly imperfect just for me.

I love you just the way you are.

Love Doctor’s Advice 004

When you are angry with your lover that is the time to keep quiet or think twice about what you are uttering. Because anger make us want to say something hurtful. You must be careful not to say anything that you will regret later. Words uttered during a fight can do a damage that will be irreparable if you fail to control your tongue. Make it a rule that during a misunderstanding in your relationship that you will attack issues(the cause of the quarrel) not personality(your lover).

 
Do you desire to make your lover happy when he/she does something for you and want them to do more of it. The secret is to lavish them with appreciation no matter how little what they did for you. Most time we make mistake of complaining about something in what they did. Why didn’t you buy this colour? Why didn’t you buy that instead of this? Why didn’t you do it this way? This kind of response discourage people. Learn to give appreciation generously. It gives encouragement and gladdens your lover’s heart. And if you are not satisfied with what they did instead of complaining tactfully suggest what you would have prefer next time they want to do the same thing after you must have shown them genuine appreciation.

 
Every once in a while surprise your lover with a gift for no particular reason. Gift brings down resistance and gladdens the heart of the receiver. The key to a lady’s heart is a gift. Men also love gift. Gift works like magic on all of us. Especially when the gift is coming from the person we love and cherish. We feel loved, appreciated, special and elated when someone special(a lover) get us a gift.

 
Whenever there is a problem in your relationship: Before you start thinking of what your partner did wrong. First figure out what you did to contribute to the problem. When you approach fights and misunderstanding in your relationship in this manner, you wouldn’t stay mad at each other for long. And it will be easy to resolve issue because you won’t be blaming everything on your lover. You will be able to see your own fault and start with your own apology which will make it easy for your partner to accept their fault and apologise too.

 
A Relationship without trust is destined to fail sooner or later. After you have established a heart connection with your partner, the next important thing to is to build up trust between the two of you. I trust you is more powerful than I love you. A cliche says don’t lie to someone that trust you and never trust a person who lies to you. The key to earning someone’s trust is being honest and truthful with them. Make effort to earn the trust of your partner. Trust is the bedrock of a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

When We Fight

When we fight I feel so miserable. I hate it when we fight.

I always desire to hear your sweet voice every single day but when we fight it becomes impossible.

Even when I am angry with you, my heart still loves you so dearly.

When we fight my world turns upside down.

I lose my sleep and peace of mind.

I realise how much you mean to me when we fight.

When you refuse to pick my call and text me back, i feel so lonely and lost in this world.

Though we fight i can not replace you because there is no one else like you.

My life is nothing without you: So I can’t imagine living it without you.

This is my request to you my love, when we fight please can I still talk to you:

Because its the mind that gets angry, the heart still loves and cares.