I Cherish You

Loving you is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

I always wish I had met you before now.

Because your presence in my life has given it a better meaning.

If loving you is a crime, I will gladly chose to become the most wanted criminal in the whole world.

Sugar is sweet, honey is sweeter but your love is the sweetest of all.

Roses are red and violet are blue:but your love has made my life more colourful.

The thought of you gladdens my heart and brighten up my face with a smile.

You are my love, my joy and my happiness.

You mean the world to me.

I cherish you my love.

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Love Doctor’s Advice 001

What you allow in your relationship will continue until you put an end to it. If you are not happy say it. Stop suffering in silence.

 

Learn to let go of what has already gone. Letting go of what doesn’t serve you anymore is the key to inner peace and true happiness. So stop trying to keep into your life anyone who made it clear he or she is no longer emotionally available for you.

 

Cheating is never a mistake but a choice. If you truly love someone and you don’t want to lose him or her, you should think twice about cheating on them. Because cheating damage trust and destroy relationships.

 

Relationship is a two way thing. It should never be a one-sided affair. Relationship is sweet, enjoyable and encouraging when the two lovers are actively involved in making things work. But it will be frustrating, exasperating and unhealthy if it is only one person striving to make sure things work out.

 

Giving someone a second chance is not bad thing: but you must be careful of who you are giving a second chance. So you don’t end up giving someone a second chance to hurt, exploit and manipulate you better than they did before. The best thing to do sometimes is to forgive and forget about them.

Four Reasons You Are Taken For Granted In Your Relationship

IMG_20180417_220629_605Love is a beautiful thing when it’s true and appropriately reciprocated between two people who find each other amazing.

Love can also be a hell on earth.

When love goes awry it result to pain,heartache and eventually heartbreak.
Life is nothing without love that is why people are either in love or searching for love.

However, the same love has led many into committing suicide or leading a mediocre life because their lives was derailed by a failed relationship.
If you are lucky to find true love it can be a source of inspiration to achieve something great in life.

On the flip side, if you get yourself on the wrong side of love it can distract you from being the best are you meant to be at any stage in life.
From my observation and interaction with people on relationship issues, being taken for granted is one of the most painful feelings experience in relationships.

We all want to feel important and treated as such. It is a psychological need deeply rooted in everyone of us. Being taken for granted by the one we love really hurt because of this psychological need.
When we are taken for granted by the one we really love, we make conscious effort to change their view about us.

We make effort to convince them to see us as a special and unique person that we are. Most of the time the attempt is futile.
I found out that most time there are some stuff we do that give us up as someone that can be taken for granted.

These are four things that can make people to take us for granted:
1. Lack Of Self Love: Thinking of loving yourself may come off as an act of selfishness but on a closer look it’s not. It is healthy and imperative for building a loving and healthy relationships. Even the Bible says love your neighbour as yourself.

Which means the amount of love you alloted to yourself will determine the amount of love you can give out.

Input determines output. The manner in which you give out love reflect the kind of love you have for yourself. It will also determine the kind of love you get in return.

So if you are not getting the kind of love you want, maybe it is right time for you to assess how much love you have for yourself.

Perhaps it is time for you to put on hold your search for love from others and focus on finding the love that is within.

When you start loving yourself aright then you will be able to attract the kind of person that will love you the exact way you want.

It is a natural law that people will treat you exactly the way you you perceive and project yourself. If you don’t genuinely love yourself it will eventually be known to others irrespective of how you try to cover it up.

Love yourself, treat yourself right and never take yourself for granted. It is just a matter of time before others follow suit.

2. Desperation: Most of us have one time or the other fall victim of this emotion. We want something so badly then we start getting desperate about it.

I always caution against this word whenever my advice is been sought after concerning relationship.

This is because desperation always make matter worse.The moment you started getting desperate to keep someone in your life, the person will start taking you for granted.

Desperation gives you up as a burden choking off your lover’s space or freedom. Desperation makes you act like a pest. There is a need for determination to make a relationship work.

But you must endeavor to differentiating between determination and desperation.

3. Failure To Define What You Want: If you aim at nothing,you will get nothing.

If you don’t know exactly what you want anything will do. Settling for anything is not a good thing. The reason some people are having difficulty in finding true love is because they keep falling in love with a certain type of personality over and over.

Doing the same thing a million times will generate the same set of result a million times, if you know what I mean.

To get a healthy and loving relationship you might need to sit down and draw out exactly what you want. I mean you should have a clear relationship goals.

In addition, you might need to be open to different kind of personalities and physical features. Because in the long run it is happiness and the feeling of been love that matters above any other things.

4. Save-Me Mentality: This can also be called Liability Disposition. This is common among the ladies. They see relationship as a source of income. This kind of thinking makes you cheap. It gives you up as a burden or liability. No man or woman will respect a partner who has turned himself/herself into a burden or liability.

To avoid being taken for granted in a relationship, you need to make yourself an asset to your partner.

Make a deliberate effort to contribute something to the relationship. Don’t go to the table empty handed, bring something valuable to the table.

Naturally a contributor is never taken for granted. Don’t see a relationship as a place to get something for yourself alone. Give something in return.
Work on yourself to become a better person consequently you will become a better lover. This will give you a chance to experience a better love life.

Let the change begins from within. And never allow anyone to take you for granted because you are special.

I Love You

No words can fully describe all the feelings I have for you.

I love making you laugh because your happiness is my source of joy and happiness.

When you are happy, i am happy too.

I love you with all of my heart, body and soul.

You complete me.

You make my life worth living.

To have known you and to have loved you has been the most beautiful dream.

I can only hope that I never wake up.

You are my one and only princess charming.

You mean the world to me.

I cherish every moment I spend with you.

Your love is worth more than diamond and gold to me.

If nothing last forever then me and you will be nothing forever.

I love you.

Love Doctor’s Advice 001

Never drag yourself though the mud, just because you want someone to love you and stay in your life.

People will treat you exactly the way you perceive and project yourself. Never give yourself up as someone cheap and in desperate need of love.

Don’t ever be a pest or parasite to people. Give people their space and seek to add value to people’s lives too.

Love is only sweet and worthy of its name when it is appropriately reciprocated.

Don’t settle for less. Go for what makes you happy and also add value to your life. Let happiness and growth be your watchwords.

Why Some Ladies Find It Difficult To Get A Serious Relationship

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A lot of ladies are complaining about the way guys are treating them. They claimed guys are just after sex but not ready for commitment.

Though this is not a new thing but the rate at which most ladies are lamenting and complaining is unprecedented.

This might be cause by many factors.

Some of these factors might be out of your control but I believe there are still some things you can do to prevent yourself from becoming a victim of a guy that is just after your body when you are actually after a serious and long term relationship.

Let’s go over some of thing you can do to avoid being a victim of register markers.

 

1) Don’t be in a rush to get into a relationship with a guy you just meet: I know it is always tempting to hasten things up when you have find exactly what you are looking for in a guy in the new dude you just met.

But I tell you most times it never goes well.

Trying to rush most time make you appear as cheap and giving out  yourself on a discount. And very few guys will not take advantage of that to get what they want and drop you like a bag of spoilt potatoes.

So what am saying in essence is learn to slow things down.

Don’t place all your card on the table too quickly, it might backfire and spoil things.

Put it at the back of your mind that rushing things will achieve exactly opposite of what you are trying to accomplish. Let the guy do the rushing and let him hunt or chase you for sometime.

This is because most guys love and appreciate more the lady they pursue and chase for sometime before she eventually become theirs.

 

2) Don’t fall in love because of money: Of course romance is sweeter when garnished with finance.

Love is sweeter, interesting and dynamic when there is money.

So don’t get me wrong, am not saying you should go and marry or date a wretched man.

Am not in position to tell you who to date or marry.

The choice is exclusively yours my dear.

My point is don’t give the signal that you are into him just because of his money.

That might make him to decide that you are not worthy of be kept.

Don’t focus too much on his money except you want him to reason that you are not with him because you love him but because he his loaded with cash to fund your lifestyle.

When most guys reason this, they will give you the money so as to have their way with you but you won’t last with him.

He will drop you as soon as he is tired of your honeycomb or when he find another chick on the block.

 

3) Show you have something to offer : I feel sorry for some girls that think all it takes to get and keep a guy is hot body, beautiful face and wonderful sex.

These can be enough atimes but to be on a safer side have more than what the average lady have.

Have a functional brain.

Develop your mental capacity.

So as to be able to hold an intellectual conversation with your guy when he is not horny. And to be able to interact with his friends and family intelligently.

This will fetch you alot of respect from guys.

Develop yourself So as to be able to give meaningful advice and support to your  guy’s dream and ambition.

Learn one or two skills that will fetch you, your own income so as not to be a liability.

Be educated and pursue a career. Make yourself indispensable to your guy.

 

4) Be faithful and loyal: Every king want a queen not a hoe.

Learn to be faithful and loyal to the guy you are with.

Nothing hurt a guy more than discovering that his babe is not faithful and loyal to him.

This can make a guy change his mind about you if he initially decided to keep you forever.

Though you can’t control what others do but you have control over what you do. By controlling what you do you can get a different and better result than before.

So stop complaining and start taking control of what you do when you meet a new guy or when you are into a new relationship.

I hope these article will help you ladies to experience a better,serious and loving relationship.

Drop your comment let me know what you think.

Thank you for your time.

12 Steps That Will Help You Get Over A Heartbreak

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1: Seek to love yourself. Love yourself enough not to beg for affection from someone who has made it clear through his words or body languages that he/ she is no longer emotionally available for you.

2: Move on with your life. Don’t continue to live in the past.

3: Meet new people. Go out with friends.

4: Allow time to heal the hurt and bruise in your heart.

5: Don’t rush into another relationship.

6: Fall in love when you meet the right person.

7: Learn to let go of what is gone.

8: Stop blaming yourself over spilled milk.

9: Get yourself involved into something that will add spices  and value to your life.

10: Set better relationship goals. Don’t just settle for anything that comes your way.

11: Don’t blame your failed love affair on all the opposite sex. Never assume all men or women are the same. All men are not scum neither are all women bitch.

12: Learn your lesson and turn it into wisdom to guide you from making the same mistake later in the future. Don’t get burn by the same flame twice.