Every individual ooze an aura that gives people impression about the kind of person they are.
This aura is also called vibe.
We all give out vibes and this vibe determines the kind of people- tribe, who are attracted to us and how we are treated by people. Our vibe is dependent on factors like our upbringing and past relationships.
For instance, people who were not shown unconditional love during childhood might have a problem with their self esteem and self perception when they become an adult.
Low self esteem will make you second guess yourself.
Low self esteem will make you feel you are not good enough.
The deeply rooted belief that you are not good enough will permeate through your body language, gesture, expression on your face and everything about you.
This sends a wrong message to people around you who will react and treat you accordingly.
People who were repeatedly abuse physically or emotionally during their childhood usually end up getting attracted to partners who physically or emotionally abuse them as an adult. They are so used to abuse to the extent that they sees it as nothing bad or abnornal.
My point is your childhood experience and past relationships can conditioned your mind to accept abnornalities in relationships as your norms.
So what can you do to make a positive change?
The solution is to take time to re-evaluate your life and relationship everyone once in a while.
Take time to identify what is working and what is not.
You can not continue to do the same thing over and over yet expect a different result.
You can not continue to give out the same vibe which attract the same tribe(people) yet expect to experience a different relationship result/experience.
You must ensure you have the right mindset and beliefs about relationship and life.
Never allow your childhood experience and past abusive relationships color your view about relationship in a negative way.
Don’t let your past keep you captive.
Re-define yourself and your perspective about relationship.
Don’t just settle for just any kind of relationship.
Being physically or emotionally abuse in a relationship is an abnormality, don’t ever accept it as your own norm.
Cheating is not normal in a healthy relationship, don’t settle for partners that are habitual cheaters.
It’s better to be alone and be happy than to be in a relationship that constantly cause you tears, pain and hurt.
Learn to love yourself and cease to spend time with people who continuously make you believe you are not good enough.
You are special, unique, amazing, wonderful and lovable.
Negative opinions of people about you should not be your reality. Create your own reality.
Adopt a positive mindset about life and relationship.
Set boundary for people. Don’t allow people to take you for granted or treat you badly. Learn to walk away from negative people and unhealthy relationships.
Build up your self-confidence. Respect and treat yourself very well.
You are good enough.
Break free from vicious circle of abusive and unhealthy relationships.
Love yourself unconditionally and keep company of people genuinely love you and values you.
Finally, be conscious of the vibe you give out. Ensure you are giving out positive vibes so as to attract positive people(tribe).