You don’t have to change for someone to love you. A person who is genuinely interested in you will love you exactly the way you are. Though it is good to change for the good. If you want to change, do so because you desire to be a better person not to get someone’s love or attention. Someone who can’t love and accept you the way you are now wouldn’t still value you even if you changed everything about you to please such a person.
Every relationship has its problem, fights and misunderstanding but what makes a relationship beautiful is the desire and determination to stick together and make things work no matter what.
Your happiness should not be determined by others. If you depend on others to be happy, your happiness will never be stable and long lasting. When you give people the power to determine your happiness, few can resist the temptation to use it to manipulate you. Take deliberate effort to make yourself happy. And spend time with the people that make you happy.
You can tell when someone takes you serious in a relationship if you care enough to pay attention. When you find someone who takes you serious, don’t spoil things by creating a back up plan (keeping someone else incase the relationship failed). When you do, you will eventually need it. Your back up plan will be the cause of the relationship failure.
Stop making negative assumption about the opposite sex in general. Don’t judge all the opposite sex because of the bad experience you had with few in time past. Not all men cheat. Not all women are unrepentant liar or materialistic. Judging the new people you are meeting based on the few you had met in time past might make you lose the chance of meeting good people. Don’t allow your past to change your outlook on life and people in a negative way. Negative mentality repeal positive and good people. It may also create a negative reality leading to vicious cycle of bad or unhealthy relationships.